@Jacqui90: Thank you!
@SweetMelissa429: That’s one of the reasons I wanted to share it, because I know how challenging those first few months and even years of marriage can be.
I’ve said this before on several threads when trying to offer advice to a bee who is surprised to find herself going through a very difficult time early on in her marriage, that few of us ever consider when we promise to love each other “for better and for worse” that sometimes — many times, in fact — the “worse” will come before the better. The wonderful news is that it is in pressing through some of the “worse” together that actually brings about the better!
Before I married my DH in my mid 40s, I was a never-married, corporate-career woman who lived alone (by choice!) for 23 years and who had a wonderful, fufilling life with amazing friends, a wonderful church family, and an exciting, rewarding, well-paying career. I lived in a vibrant, metropolitan area and had access to the best restaurants and shopping anyone could desire.
My DH and I met online (athough we give all the glory to God for bringing us together), and marriage to him ultimately meant that I had to relocate to a very small town in a very rural area of another state, far away from my friends and almost everything that was familiar to me, including my career and income. Um. Ouch. 🙂
I not only became an instant wife, but also I became the wife of a very busy, over-committed, almost always stressed and exhausted senior pastor of a church, a stepmother of multiple children — including two teenagers; a stepmother-in-law; a dog owner; and, less than two years into my marriage, a grandmother to a gorgeous baby girl. And I had to do all of that far away from the special people who had played such significant roles in my life for so many years — and far away from most of my favorite stores and restaurants, LOL! 🙂 It. Was. Hard!!
However, over time, God has shown me that, for me to truly enjoy all of the wonderful new blessings He has been trying to give to me, and for me to become the woman he intends for me to become in this new phase of my life, I had to change my way of thinking and let go of what was and embrace what is and what is yet to be.
It has been an amazing process, one that has been filled with emotion and discovery, one that not only drove me to this site but also has afforded me the privilege and joy of, through this site, being able to invest some of my life into helping and encouraging others. And, most important, after all of the turmoil involved in my making this enormous transition, I have emerged a different, wiser, and better person because of my marriage to DH and the work that God has been doing in me and in us.
Thank you all for being on this jouney with me! <3
@Sunfire: Thank you! Happy eight month anniversary to you and your DH! We are going out to dinner to celebrate! 🙂