Post # 1
I recently set SO up on Facebook for the first time. I’ve been showing him how to log in, how to look for friends, view notifications etc – the whole deal. SO is quite the technophobe (quite endearing!!).
When I was setting him up and looking for him to add as a friend, I noticed someone of the same name but didn’t think much of it.
Last night, SO stalked the other guy (so proud of my teaching!) – which, as it turns out, is an imposter. He is apparently in the same line of work at a rival corporation (unusual). One of his pictures was of a unique style of car the same model and colour as SO used to own (Also unusual).
The weirdness doesn’t end there – on the imposter’s friends list is the woman who gave birth to him (does not deserve the title of ‘mother’). SO would not, in a million years, add this woman.
The imposter has shared photos and sayings about being mistreated, to which this woman has commented ‘I am sorry’. It makes me sick to think someone has done this, and even sicker to think this vile woman would even entertain the idea that SO would want anything to do with her, much less accept a FB apology for all the shit she has put him through.
Part of me wants to make a fake profile (without stealing someone’s identity like this asshole has done) and message the imposter pretending that I know him from times gone by and ask what he’s been up to, and see if we can figure out who the hell did this (even though we have a fair idea), but part of me wants to not feed the troll and just report the page and hopefully get it removed. What would you do? I’m enraged, and even still, it doesn’t match the anger and shock SO is feeling about it all.
Post # 3
@Deejayelle: Has the fake page actually posted photos of your SO? If not, I’m not sure if you would be able to get the page removed as your evidence doesn’t seem that strong (I personally believe you, I’m just thinking of it from Facebook’s prespective.)
Is the only person who has been dupped by the fake profile this woman? If so, I think I might just leave it. If you think about it, it’s kind of funny that she’s been taken in by this fake person. BUT if other friends and/or family have friended this imposter, then I think you should do something, or at least warn them that this is not your SO.
For all you know that fake profile might actually BE this woman.
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Post # 5
..what? This is so weird! Like something out of a movie! Who would do this? Do you think it’s actually his mother being crazy and pretending she has a relationship with him? So creepy!
P.S. None of SO’s friends are actually on this guy’s list are they?
Post # 6
Many people on the internet are weirdos. Unless there are actual photos of your SO, I would let it go. If there are actual photos, report it.
Post # 7
@aliavenue: Yep, this is what I would suggest.
Post # 8
@Deejayelle: I have seen people accidentally “friend” people with the same name as their actual friend. Is it possible that this is all a mistake/coincidence. i.e.
1. FI’s egg donor sees your FI’s name, and sends a friend request.
2. FI’s namesake is one of those people who accepts a friend request from anyone, so accepts.
3. FI’s namesake later posts comments about his bad childhood.
4. FI’s egg donor responds with “I’m sorry”, but FI’s namesake thinks this is just a random person expressing sympathy.
Post # 9
I reported the page as an imposter from SO’s profile, and after about a week, SO got a message from Facebook saying that they have removed the page. Hooray!
While there were no photos of SO, there were too many coincidences for it to be just someone with the same name, in the same line of work, who used to own the same car…but the egg donor being on that page just turned my stomach. Who knows what secret correspondence may have been going on between her and the imposter? I also wonder how long the page had been there. I’d never tried to look for SO because I knew he wasn’t on fb, I never considered that some messed up individual would go and make a page on his behalf!
Post # 10
@Deejayelle: I shared this story with my DH. He thinks your SO may have a pyscho EX that’s doing this to him. ARe any of his ex’s this obsessed with him to take it this far?
Post # 11
@Deejayelle: Glad to hear it was taken down without you needing to do much else!
Post # 12
Wow, that is really, really creepy! Do you have any idea who might have done it? Might be worth doing some research, just in case they try to do it again! I’m glad they took the page down for you!
Post # 13
no, I don’t think so. We strongly suspect it was an estranged relative of SO’s, who has been sending abusive text messages because he doesn’t want any kind of relationship with them. That is my best guess anyway!
@TheLawrenceBride: it is creepy! Who would sit there and think ‘hmm, might make a fake fb profile’!?