(Closed) SO has offered to take me to a wedding show

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

ehhhh…if it were me (which By The Way, not many guys would offer to take you there!) my response would probably be “Maybe i should wait till a proposal to be going to bridal shows” and leave it at that.

I have to agree its something i would enjoy more with my friends or female family. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not to get your hopes up or anything, but at the last wedding show I went to, a guy proposed to his gf outside the front door. They were giving out prizes for the best proposal story, so the guy got to go up on stage and tell everyone the story and they won a huge prize.

 

 

Post # 6
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Newbee

I can relate to this. My SO and I are going to a wedding fayre this weekend for our anniversary!

It was his idea so I’m totally at ease with it and I know he’s ordered the e-ring & booked a weekend away he wants me to keep free in August this year. We’ve talked a lot about wedding ideas and what we do and don’t like and are comfortable mentioning it between ourselves (no-one else knows I know about the impending engagment but he’s told his best friend and parents)

The only thing that I’m apprehensive about is that I haven’t got a ring on my finger! I feel like whenever I’m talking to one of the vendors they’re going to be checking out my ring finger and seeing that it’s bare!!

I think if it’s his idea then just go with it and enjoy the experience. He wants to make you happy, so that’s all you’ve got to be!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

umm…I probably would have told my Fiance that I would like to go after a proposal. But then again…I was really superstitious and wouldn’t even look at a wedding magazine or website (except this one) until he proposed!

If he is treating it like a movie you want to see, such as “oh I’ll take her to the chick flick because it would mean a lot”, and not doing it because he is ready to talk wedding with you, then I would skip it. But if weddings are something you have been talking about openly, then sure, go!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I have to agree with some of the other posters I would wait til you are engaged to go. It just might be really awkward to go without a formal proposal, and ring.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Tarheelgurl:  that makes sense then. He might actually be the one that wants to go, but doesnt want to seem girly so he is offering to take you, HAHA! Maybe the caterer he likes will be there.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d feel awkward being there but not engaged. When I went to wedding shows, every single vendor or person I talked to would ask when you were getting married, want to see the ring, ask about your colors, etc. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tarheelgurl:  My Fiance and I went to one together before we were engaged. It was an upscale event and we had free tickets. I didn’t wear a ring, but noone said anything. We did get stickers that said, “Bride” and “Groom”. We had talked about marriage and had a timeline we both agreed on so we were kind of pre-engaged at that point. We enjoyed the show and got some ideas. It was fun. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My vote is for you to go to the bridal expo!  My SO mentioned one to me a couple weeks ago…he called me while I was at work just to tell me about it.  He said, hey you and your friend should go, I think you might like it, and you can get some ideas.  I thought, hell yes!  This is a step in the right direction!  I would have never thought in a million years my SO would be suggesting I go to one of those things, especially since we are not engaged.

I thought it was going to be awkward at first, but it was so much fun!  I wore a pretty little pink and white ring on the special finger, and if vendors asked about a wedding date, I told them I was not sure, but was hoping for October 2012.  It was a fun girls day and gave me a whole day to daydream and get wonderful ideas!  I did see a couple friends and they acted all excited because they thought I was engaged, but I told them that SO asked me to come and get ideas, and they thought that was just as awesome!

I know waiting is so annoying sometimes and I want to talk to SO all the time about when the magical day is that he actually proposes.  But I have found that all the materials they gave me at the bridal expo have come in handy!  If I am feeling sad that he has not proposed yet, or that I feel like I need to talk to him about it, or want to daydream, I pull that stuff out and look through it.  I know it sounds crazy, but it is kind of therapeutic! LOL 

Have fun this weekend and let us know how it goes!!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tarheelgurl: No one asked to see my ring and no one asked if we were engaged. I really doubt you will get that question. You don’t have to tell them you’re not engaged, most will just assume that you are. If you and your Fiance are planning on getting married, but he hasn’t gotten down on one knee and said “Will you marry me” you can still considered yourself engaged. You might get a “when did you get engaged?” question. I would just answer, “Well there really wasn’t a date, we just started talking about getting married” which is the truth.  

Like bridewannabe said, just agree on a time (doesn’t have to be specific) for a possible wedding date. And tell the vedors you are just getting ideas. 

Don’t stress! It will be fun!

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