(Closed) So He is Getting Married

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

i dont think id want to meet her personally

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

armychica06 :  Well isn’t she lucky – she is marrying a cheater.   I wouldn’t care to meet her.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Eh, I don’t think it’s necessary. As long as she treats your son well, that should be all that matters.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

What would I do?  Go on with my life and scratch meeting her from my priorities list.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, since you and you ex have a son together you are bound to meet her someday- school play, soccer game… his high school graduation. Anyway, Personally, I’d prefer to meet her when I know I’m looking awesome. Because other wise it WILL be the one time when you are wearing sweats and aren’t wearing makeup! I know it really doesn’t matter, but I hate to be caught off guard!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

This has to do with co-parenting and has nothing to do with your relationship with him or her. 

She’s around your child, hell yes you should meet her. Does your kid spend the night st her house? I can’t believe he doesn’t understand that of course the mother should meet the grown ups who will be caring for his child. Jfc he sounds like such a loser.

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

The one thing about my ex-husband is that he is a good father and I really have no worries that he would ever have our daughter interact with anyone that wasn’t caring to her. Do you feel the same? If you have concerns, I would ask to meet her to make certain my child was safe in a good environment. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I kind of feel your suspicion might be right. Perhaps he told her that you two were separated during the affair and thinks that she might find out the truth—that he cheated—if you talk.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Sorry but before my child had gone anywhere near her I would have had a face to face with her. Thats Standard Operating Procedure in my book. She might be a perfectly nice person but then again she might not. What if they have kids and she starts treating your kid like crap.

You just never know these things unless you meet someone ahead of time. I wouldnt allow my kid to go somewhere unless I have met the person face to face and the word of an ex who is sleeping with that person is not worth bunk. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

armychica06 :  I believe he most likely did lie to her and that is why he doesn’t want her to meet you… this same type of situation happened to me but I was with my ex for many years and one of the women he cheated on me with that he is now married to he forbid her to meet me and have a chat. At this point she has been with your ex and in your sons life for 4 years now… there isn’t much to talk about nor touch base on. I feel you are More wanting to meet her to get your side of the story out and what you feel and while it can be very empowering for you, you have your son to think about and how this will effect any type of coparenting you might have in place with your ex. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

armychica06 :  there is definitely some lie that he is trying to protect.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

If your child is interacting with her, I would 100% want to meet her.  Would you let your child attend a school if you didn’t know the teacher?  Or join a sport if the coach refused to meet you?  It seems as though you’ve been doing a good job emotionally managing such a difficult situation!

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