Post # 1
At the momernt I dont think we will have a wedding! I have been with my Fi for nine years and engaged for three years. Recently we have been trying to find a rception venue and found one we like. We went there to do a deposit using our bank card and it said NSF. I was shocked and embaressed at the same time. Our wedding was supposed to be small around 70 people. I think that he has been secretive about the finaces because I thougt we would be able to cover the deposit and then pay off the the balance over the spand of a year.
I am heart broken because all our hopes and dreams are being shattered and I somehow feel cheated because I waited so long in hopes of having our wedding. Now he is saying that we should elope just the 2 of us but to be honest not even that I dont believe we could afford. I wanted our family and children to be a part of our wedding! He claims he wanted to elope form day one but yet I know nothing abiut this at all until now. If thats the case then why didnt he suggest we do so shortyly after the proposal? I just wish he was a bit more open about things so that I would know where we stand in terms of having a wedding. I have already devoted nine years to this man. I am so hurt right now I cant think straight. I have been spending the past few days just crying.. vent over
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear about that! Did you ask him what happened? Maybe having a small ceremony with a backyard BBQ reception would be an option? More importantly than the details of the wedding, in my opinion, would be communicating openly about your finances and figuring out what the heck happened!
Post # 4
Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you. I agree with Treasure43. Communication is key and the fact that there was an error in that shows something may be wrong. There are other options for a reception, BBQ, everyone bring a meal…would your parents/family help pay?
Post # 5
I’m really sorry about whats happening 🙁 Perhaps you could just go to city hall and get married outside with family watching you, or if you’re religious you could do it for free in a church! Those are the solutions if you just want to be married and dont care about having a large ceremony: me and Fiance are going this route :3
But yeah, men tend to be secretive about their wedding desires or just straight up dont care! it can be really frustrating when you think you’re on the same page but then they change everything
Post # 6
i’m sorry to hear that but what about a down scale wedding i know that sucks i hated the idea of it til i went to the church and seeing the look on my FI’s face and realizing that I would be married to him regardless of the place and the food made it okay.
we’re doing just a church wedding and cake punch reception it’s nice it’ll be our family and friends short sweet to the point and a lot of fun. only for about $2000 total including dress etc etc