(Closed) SO hurt. Don't know what to do :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee

I’m sorry πŸ™

It is a hurtful thing and it is hard to deal with.

Xx

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

That’s so frustrating. I’m sorry : ( She sounds horrible. I wouldn’t take it personally, as hard and frustating as that is, because she seems to be trying to upset you for some reason. She seems jealous of you, and like your fiancé said, probably wishes she could manipulate you to get what she wants. She sounds really immature.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hope she comes around. But personally, I would just stop attempting for her to like me. I feel like she probably gets a kick out of knowing she is in control and you are the one that is behind her trying to have her like you. The world doesn’t revolve around her, and don’t feed that beast, and make her feel like it does. Just keep going. Follow through with your wedding planning and act like she doesn’t exist.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What in the world are ‘freedom to marry’ documents? I’ve never heard of such a thing??

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@celticbride:  +1 and why would she need to sign them? your Fiance and you are both adults, so wouldn’t you two sign them? 

she sounds awful πŸ™

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Re – Freedom to Marry Documents

Not sure of the Bride’s particular situation…

BUT Freedom to Marry Documents refers to the paperwork that is required to be filed usually if someone is marrying outside of their own country (sometimes even outside of their own jurisdiction… State / Province etc).

It is a Document where you SWEAR AN OATH that you are FREE TO MARRY WITHOUT IMPEDIMENT (ie not already married, or that a previous Marriage doesn’t stand between you and this marriage… so if you are Widowed, Divorced or the Marriage was Annulled… in some places it can also refer to the fact that your Spouce is not a blood relative etc)

For my first marriage… such a document was sworn to at our church… in a Province where if you get married at a church then you don’t need to purchase a “Marriage License”… but rather the Banns of Marriage are published.

This time round…

In my own example, we are getting married in SC, and in that state, we will take such an Oath.  It means to us for example, that we don’t have to go thru the lengthy and expensive process of providing the Authorities in that State with our Divorce Decree Paperwork etc.

Not 100% sure how the Future Mother-In-Law plays into this scenario for the Bride… but it is possible that she is some sort of witness for this document (ie either testifying on her son’s behalf, or the fact that she has known the Bride for an extended period of time… noting that the Bride has said previously that they work together)

EDIT TO ADD – I was drafting my reply, while the OP was writing theirs.  Looks like the situation has now been explained.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

ah ok, well if she refuses to sign i would definitely get his grandfather to do it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – MissMeeksy:  Regarding the Guest List…

I’d have your Fiance ASK… if you have done so more than 2x already… if only once, then I’d ask again.

This is one of those issues, where the Wedding Info comes down to “his side of the family”… such details, when they go off the rails, should be handled by the one in the couple to whomever the “culprit” is related.

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissMeeksy:  I agree with @This Time Round: I would ask my Fiance to tell her and have him tell  her when you need them by so you can mail out STD and all. I wouldn’t ask her sister though; because if she made a big deal about something minor like the beach house thing (the backgroud post you gave), for sure she is going to make a huge deal about you not going to her about the guestlist (even though you have).

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissMeeksy:  Thanks for explaining! I was married in a catholic church, full mass and all, and we definitely didn’t have anything like that signed!

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