(Closed) So I am having a party with aps…

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Really small plates? 🙂

Post # 5
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bellagiobride:  Oh my goodness! You have some talented and determined guests! I always feel funny taking too much at parties like these. If I am starving, I just wait until after the party to eat, lol.

I know you said it wouldn’t be an option to periodically put out more food, but what about having all of the food “out” but having some of it hidden? Maybe something under the table (w/ a table cloth) that you could set some trays of appetizers on that would be covered until you pulled them out? Or would that not be an option either?

Idk.. Hire someone to stand by them and pass them out, giving strict orders to only give each person one? Hahah 🙂 Tricky situation!

Post # 7
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do they think that they’re getting dinner? I’ve seen people do this too, at my house and other peoples’ too! Especially with the small plates…or people balancing like here tiny plates just to make sure they get enough spinach dip or whatever lol.

Last time, for FH’s bday, I put out a big platter wih hummus, veggies, and pita chips first for people to nosh on and fill up a little for the first hour or so. Then, I put out more things on the table one at a time, and cleared platters as they emptied out…it didn’t look or feel like a “buffet” so much as it was just a table wih snacks to graze on.

Post # 8
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You really can’t do portion control on a self-service/buffet type meal. If you don’t want to hire someone to manage the appetizer supply, then you will need to use very small serving plates and replenish them regularly.  The bigger the pile you set out, the more people are going to take. You may also want to look at the time of day of the gathering. Even if you tell people it’s an “appetizer service”, if it’s at 7pm smack in the middle of dinner hour, then people are going to want a full and proper dinner.

Post # 9
367 posts
Helper bee

If your guests are going to arrive in shifts, then I would either put the food out in shifts, or just buy more food than you had last time so that there’s enough for everyone. Honestly, if people see food at a party, they are going to eat it. I think it’s unreasonable to expect your guests not to eat the food you have sitting out for them. If your party is more than three hours long, then it probably overlaps with a mealtime. They might not realize that you are not expecting to provide a meal for them. (If you can’t afford a meal, maybe you could suggest that you all go out to lunch or dinner together before or after the party?)

If you really can’t put the food out in a few different shifts, then I’d maybe do a buffet-style thing where the more substantial stuff (sandwiches and salads) are at the beginning, with the hors d’ouevres at the end like “sides.” That way, people may be less tempted to fill their plates with small things if they know they already have something to fill them up. Or, maybe if you know a few people have to be late because of other responsibilities, you could prepare plates for those few latecomers before the party starts and put them in the oven, so you don’t have to worry about policing earlier guests’ intake to have enough left over for the latecomers. They would definitely appreciate that you made a plate just for them, and it might save you some stress as you watch your appetizers quickly dwindling. You might also get something that’s a lot cheaper, like cheese and crackers or chips and dip, to help guests fill up.


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