MemberYeah, this makes me so grateful for my mil. In fact it makes me want to call her up right now and tell her how much I love her. At the same time it makes me feel so bad for you and your fi… what a psycho.
MemberAfter reading her e-mail…gosh, who would WANT to invite them to the wedding??? Burn that bridge woman!! She’s actually mad that you created an anonymous screen name to get advice anonymously about an anonymous FMIL? But NOW everyone knows EXACTLY who she is and it’s HER FAULT! OMG, can you say CRAZY!!!
PS-Your Fiance sounds awesome!
Member::creepy twilight music:: @ that email. what a weirdo fmil!!!
Memberthanks again for all the comments. Fiance had a great night sitting at the computer and laughing at all of them! it hurts alot, but as we learned in counseling…it isnt really about ME and its their choice to act this way. all she has done is push her son away more. he makes his own decisions…he is the one who chose to cut off contact after getting no where with them, and if she needs to comfort herself by thinking i am controlling him then so be it…its their loss as far as we are concerned!
at least he has some cool aunts and uncles!
Memberglad it all worked out, I would be majorly annoyed if it happened to me! glad your still on wedding bee!
Memberi could never give up weddingbee…but i will make up a stalker proof name next time! no more posting on the local board!
MemberI’m going to 3rd (4th?) the drink the BOTTLE comment. She’s crazy. Obviously, you wouldn’t have posted stuff about her if she hadnt given you reason to post in the first place!! Also, what kind of crazy person thinks that most college kids have their parents on their checking account? Seriously, she’s delusional.
Good luck to you!!!
Memberthat i can even understand…this was after he graduated! she can be forgetful…like how she forgot how outrageous her behavior was when she screamed in my face that i was a little bitch and told me that my name isnt on the deed when i asked her to stop screaming at me in my home.
MemberYou know,I just read both threads,and without really knowing all the history of this,I can tell you that it is posible to have a wonderful life minus inlaws. We’ve done it quite successfully & happily for at least 22+ years now. It used to get my husband a little nostalgic every time the holidays rolled around,but he realized early in our marriage it just wasn’t worth the ignorance displayed by his family,who chose his Ex-wife over him. It didn’t matter that his Ex wanted to not be married anymore,but really,no matter what…who chooses an Ex-wife over their own son? They used the excuse that no one was going to tell THEM who they could have contact with,when he told them how much it hurt that SHE was invited for family gatherings before WE were. If she couldn’t make it,we were the second string invitees. Nice. I had nothing to do with his first marriage ending,so it really made no sense.
My parents thought it was awful that his parents still didn’t change much when we had our kids,but that it was important that the other Grandparents were in their lives. I gave it 5 years,and finally told my husband I wasn’t waiting around for the next 20 for them to finally accept us, or to let them continue to hurt my children. He then took the kids to see his parents for Christmas a few more years,but they were so unhappy every time they returned,it just wasn’t worth it.
Don’t kid yourself about family loyalty and the guilt adults feel about it. If they love you and stand up to their parents,making it perfectly clear that poor treatment of you will not be tolerated anymore, the decision to make a clean break from them is not only possible but its the best you can do for yourself and your family. You owe it to yourself and your sanity to not let his mother try and take over your lives. It really won’t get any better!
In the other thread and reading what you’ve written about it all it sounds to me like she’s a desperate woman who is willing to do just about anything to show her son how ‘right’ she is. I actually thinks its sad and pathetic, so yes….get a new name and hide yourself! Good luck!
MemberWell, that stinks… but why are you writing it on here then?? I mean, I”m sure she’s just going to read it and follow you around even more.
Perhaps you should change your name and go awol for a bit?
Ugh, I couldn’t imagine…
MemberAw, man, I don’t want to be the one to kill this thread, but I have to comment again —
I totally LOLed when I was reading her email and saw “Ask yourself why she would be reading a book called TOXIC IN-LAWS!” Some people are so dense.
And yeah, that is a pretty solid give-away.
MemberLmao @ rainbow “she needs to get off the crazy train” ….man that’s hilarious!!
Wow. I wonder if she’s reading this whole thing right now…..
If you are take it from me that you’re a half a second away from the nut house!! you should get that checked out!!
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MemberWow. I am so sorry you have to deal with that. But, I applaud you guys on the way you are handling this. She sounds like a nightmare. Eek.
Memberwoah…just read the other post. HOT. MESS. Hang in there, appreciate your Fiance a little (lot) more, and know that you have each others backs. That is the most important part
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