(Closed) So I found out that my husband of one month

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thinking about you, girl… I can’t imagine how you must be feeling <3. Best of luck.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

OMG Im so so sorry for you. Did you confront him about it? What did he say? Are you sure it wasnt just something that auto downloaded with something else? (Im not trying to give him an out.believe me) Im just curious as to what he responded with when you confronted him?

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What was his reasoning?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Wow. That is not okay. I am really sorry. I think you have a great idea though. Counseling is definitely the first step…. and so is making him sleep outside in the cold. Men are pigs.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Was the app there before and just not been removed? Have you discussed it at all?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this! This is not supposed to be newly wed bliss so to speak.

How did you come across this? Was it just a joke among buddies perhaps, or a mistake hitting a wrong button?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m glad he owned it, at least that is one stage you don’t have to through (the total denial stage). Sounds like he is full of excuses. How is your relationship besides this? It sounds like a shock but were you guys having problems? How  is the intimacy in your relationship (not just sexually but do you feel close to him). I am so sorry this is happening, I’m not sure I could get over it either.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can you clairfty the verbal abuse part? He accused you of verbally abusing him on a regualr basis so he turned to chats, or the way you talk to him when you found out about it?

True about trusting your instincts. Has porn been a part of your relationship? Do you know if he uses it  ( previous to marriage and after) and/or are accepting of it?

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow.. well honestly..if he can seperate anything from you.. thats a big red flag.. I couldnt recover from that.. theres no way.  There shouldnt be a way for him to compartmentalize other things in his life to make it seem like you dont exist to keep him from feeling guilty.. thats a huge issue.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

something like this happened to me with my Fiance, he had deleted all his history in his phone about a year into dating eachother (about 6 months before proposal) and I knew it was strange behavior and finally got him to confess that he had looked at porn… i was crushed- just totally beside myself -the worst part was that he had watched it while i was home with him!!!! WHAT!- I cried and cried and locked myself away and felt like he had just ruined my entire outlook on him I mean MY FI?! It took me such a long time to even feel comfortable around him, he had no excusses and owned it once i FORCED it out of him… terrible… I’m so sorry girl… take it one day at a time and spend your time with family or close friends.. you have every right to not trust him and feel the way you do, you have to heal from this for your own benefit and he will step up if he thinks youre worth it, if not…then its time for some changes

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Hopefully consuling helps.

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