Post # 1
I got yelled at, at work today 🙁 No where, ever, have I been yelled at. I’ve been criticized and etc, all taken pretty well, but yelled at? NO. I don’t know if it’s luck or if it speaks for how well I have ever done a job.
I got yelled at about a simple question I had, and our head office (the other woman on the phone) got so angry at me about my question that she lost it. She didn’t call me names or anything but she was very VERY loud and kept repeating that she didn’t understand why I called and didn’t understand the problem. She kept attacking me for not doing something or another…she never let me fricken talk for a second though either.
All of a sudden my face got really hot, I thought I was going to burst out in anger but then tears just started pouring out everywhere. I work in an office setting and was so embarrassed that all my coworkers witnessed me breaking down like that.
To add, I am the youngest person at my work and almost the youngest in the entire company (it’s a small company) and I am 26. I am married with children as well. I already felt frustrated that everyone at work treated my like I was young in the sense that I had no life experience, I didn’t know how to do my job. (I am also the only one in the company that has a college degree) which is slightly insulting because I felt like my college degree was a joke to them. They make me feel like I’m a dumb teenager…
It’s frustrating because I have been through a lot and worked so hard in life and have made really smart decisions for myself and my family. I was thinking about mutual funds at 18, not liquor. Then to add insult to how I was already feeling….I effing cry on my desk after being yelled at.
Post # 2
A colleague yelled at me the first (and only) time when I was 22. Similar situation to yours. I was doing my job and working hard. That did not hold her back, though, from telling me how inadequate I was and what a liar I was. Some people just have problems. Many adults are no better than children, honestly. When they don’t get their way, they throw a tantrum. My lady realized she had been backed into a corner and caught on her lies (very illegal lies, may I add), and I wasn’t going to budge in my thought to fulfil her lies. Thankfully, in my situation, when she threw the tantrum, it was in front of my Director and various other adults, so they shut that down quickly. However, I left the situation feeling exactly like you. If you are comfortable with it, you should bring it up with your manager. Tell him/her what occurred and that you want to make sure it doesn’t happen again or how you can better avoid a similar situation in the future. They will see it as you taking the initiative to better yourself in your job. Also, if the lady reports the situation to your manager, then he/she will have heard it from your side, first. If this is something the company always makes you feel, you should start looking at other companies.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry 🙁 I totally would have cried too! Hopefully the person who yelled at you apologizes…maybe they were just having a bad day? It’s really unprofessional to yell at a co-worker like that. I hope you feel better soon! Hang in there!
Post # 4
Carolinabuckeye: I know how you feel!! When I started out in my field I was 23… and I had a boss who yelled at me. I also was frequently made to feel like I was a teenager because I have always been the youngest in the office, even at the place I am at now. At almost 30 I still am made to feel like I am a teen with no life experience… because my co-workers are all 50’s and 60’s.
Hang in there, try not to let that rude woman bring you down. Easier said than done, I know.
Post # 5
“I got yelled at about a simple question I had, and our head office (the other woman on the phone) got so angry at me about my question that she lost it.”
are you sure she wasn’t frustrated by the other person on the phone and took it out on you? or was this a conference call?
Post # 6
Wow, sorry that happened to you.. No excuse on her hand. Doesnt matter if she was having a bad day or not. One leaves their problems at the door. If I were you I will meet with her and sternly tell her that she is to never to speak to you like that again. You deserve respect the same way you respect her to never scream at. ( plus I would meet with your manager to report her)
Post # 7
- Wedding: Cottage on the Creek
i used to get yelled at all the time at my old job, its just how my boss communicated. I’d usually hold it together then cry in the bathroom. I’m so glad i don’t work there anymore, no one deserves to be treated like that.
Post # 8
I’ve been yelled at by clients on the phone loads of times (I work in a customer service oriented job). You need to realize that when someone loses it and starts yelling at you, it’s not about you. Even if you were being seriously incompetent, there are so many polite and clear ways of saying that. Once I was yelled at by an old man, and after he finished yelling I realized that I felt sorry for him because he was clearly miserable. You could try letting her know that you aren’t comfortable with that type of communication and if she would like you to communicate with her differently (in person/email/chat) rather than on the phone could she let you know.. or something like that. Most of all dont take it personally 🙂
Post # 9
How awful! I hate when I am so angry/embarrassed/upset that I can’t control my emotions and start to cry. I’m really sorry that happened to you- sounds like a terrible day. Don’t let the bastards grind you down!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada
I spent the last 4 months in a job where the boss (the OWNER) yelled at me almost daily, and even threw things at me. Needless to say right after starting I was already looking for another job. In your case maybe it’s just that one lady and I hope that doesn’t happen again for you. But the point of my story is to say… I react the same way when people yell at me. I get angry, but I cry… not our of sadness, but anger. And it’s really embarrassing especially at work. I hate it!!! So I know how you feel.
Post # 11
My boss called me a liar today, and I marched right into his boss’s office and handed in my 2 weeks notice. I haven’t been this happy in years!!!! I’ve worked at this company for 16 years and this little prick was my boss for 3 months. This was the icing on the cake, but I was so ready to go.
Keep your chin up! People suck! I have cried at work too and it’s embarrassing but it happens to lots of us.
Post # 12
The only time I cried at my job was my first year, when I was 22. I am a teacher and a fellow teacher YELLED at me in front of students, talk about embarassing and then I cried, even more embarassing! It really sucks and I feel for you. I’ve come close to crying a couple of other times because of colleagues (never because of students) and something that helps me keep it together is to just tune out the person who is making me lose control and to focus on my breathing 100%. I know it’s too late for advice now and I hope it never happens again in the future, but if it does…
Post # 13
I wish more people would utilize the HR department. It might not make you happier at work but it might prevent something like thay from happening to someone else in the future.
I am the general manager for a company and a manager in another department tries to throw me under the bus constantly, I’ve never been effected from it because I chose not to take it personally. Ive seen many people get emotional at work so chin up you’re not the only one. If I were you I would go to HR and explain the situation. That is the most unprofessional thing to have to experience and people shouldn’t get away with it. I don’t care how bad of a day someone has had treating another human like trash is unacceptable! Hope your day gets better
Post # 14
Carolinabuckeye: my mom was a teen mom. got a government job and worked her way up. No college degree, looked down upon for her age, spent many days stressed. I’m sure she cried, not in front of us. Now she’s the highest person in her department (without being an elected official) and only 48. She’s become a tough business woman. Deff an inspiration to my sister and I.
Sorry you have to go through this. It won’t last forever. Maybe one day you’ll be that assholes boss one day!
Post # 15
Thank you all SO much! It’s so helpful to hear people give me honest and heartfelt advice. Reading these definitely made me feel better and helped me realize I’m not alone!