- 5 years ago
I’m in a bit of a sticky situation here, gals.
I have a friend that has been like a sister to me since elementary school – we grew up down the street from one another. A little bit of back story, she has been with her man since 7th grade! Well, kind of. They ‘dated’ (I dk what you call 7th graders being exclusive) from 7th grade to 10th grade and then split because my friend had a wandering eye. They took a two year break, but have been going strong for a little over six years now! Now, she was over the moon happy when they got back together, and still seems to be upholding that happiness…
Now, she basically considers them married. Which, who wouldn’t? He’s jewish, so now she only eats kosher. She won’t get a tattoo because she knows his family won’t approve, etc. etc. I support her because when being in a relationship that long, who wouldn’t consider that? So…why aren’t they married yet? Well, she keeps saying that it’s because they haven’t gotten their lives on track yet. They’re both 26. They both live at home. They both have full time jobs. Both are graduates from University. They share the same friends, blah blah blah.
When my other friends started asking about her, I kind of started to think about it…they’re never together in public. She’s always going out alone with her friends and he vice versa. They never go out together. I thought it was just clashing schedules? She says that he comes over at night and they spend a few hours together and then they go their separate ways. Soooo, it’s like friends with benefits?
She wants to get married, she keeps thinking with every holiday that he’ll pop the question. THey’ve never had the talk about doing so! She’s been in SO many weddings, she’s even going to be in mine. I just don’t understand their relationship, but it’s none of my business, right?
Well, her boyfriend and I share all share a mutual friend, his best friend, we’ll call him Matt. Matt pulled me aside one night at the bar and straight up told me that his friend said, “He never plans to marry her.” Like…what? Why not? I never got specific answer, but I from what he sort-of explained was that he’s just dating her while he coasts through his twenties to see where he ends up. He even wants to move across the US to the west coast, but doesn’t plan on inviting her or even telling her he’s applying to jobs out there.
Now, normally I’d stay out of this if it were any other person, but this is my sister from another mister. I feel like even if I told her, she wouldn’t believe me. I dk what to do here, gals. I don’t want my friend to get dicked over when she’s been with this dude since 7th grade (pretty much). I don’t want her wasting her time!
I dk, what would you do if you were in my shoes? My girlfriend has a strong personality and she’s stubborn as hell, i don’t even know how I would approach this situation if I were to confront her about it.