(Closed) So I hope this isn’t offensive but…

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Post # 3
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I get that Wayyyy too often

I have very very short hair (similar to yours).

Once, wearing a collared boy shirt, guy comes up and says, “I bet you’re a lot like me. I bet you like girls.” I was just like, hmmmmmm.

Its usually only drunk d bags out at bars. I think the most offensive is when I’m told that I’m a ‘cute’ lesbian—as in most lesbians are unattractive?? blarrrggh.

I really don’t get it, I mean my ex had glorious long hair and people didn’t assume he was gay or feminine.

whateves, I think short hair on girls is ra–add

Post # 4
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t really get it either!  Granted I’m okay with it.. one of my best friends has really short hair and we’ve definitely gotten discounts before because the servers/baristas thought we were a couple. I kid you not.

Post # 6
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Is just this lame idea that long hair define girly girls. Guys wear long hair all the time too.

I’ve never heard someone IRL refering to a girl as a lesbian just cause she wears short hair but I’m aware of the stereotype.

Post # 7
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

One time I got called a lesbian because I held the door open for my friend (a female).  I was like…umm what?  There are lots of gender/sexual orientation stereotypes out there that make NO sense whatsoever.

Post # 8
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

…..personally I think everyone is kind of gay

Post # 9
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My BFF and I used to both have pixie cuts (she still has hers, I’ve been growing mine out for a change) and when we’d be out shopping together or eating or whatever people sometimes thought we were a couple. Weird as shit.

Post # 10
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I have to admit, the pixie cut hasn’t been as mainstream popular until recently.  Maybe these people just haven’t been exposed enough to it yet.  There’s always going to be ignoramuses out there.  The trick is to not care what they think/say.  I’ve seen pics of your pixie and it looks super cute on you.  And no, I did not think “lesbian” when I saw it.


Post # 11
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Since when do people think pixie cuts are for lesbians only! Holy cow! I’m friends with a girl who has super short hair because, guess what? She LIKES it that way! She’s said that she has problems dating and is on those online dating sites and some of the things those low life loser guys tell her are along the lines of “you’d be cute if you grew your hair out”. 

I love seeing girls who can rock a short cut and wish I had to courage to do a major awesome chop. 

Post # 12
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Koolbeans621: Second that. 

Oddly enough, I have people often thinking I’m gay, and I have long hair, fairly feminine looking. I think people make those judgments based on looks often, but people also make those judgments based on attitude as well. 

Post # 14
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

yeah i got that sometimes when my hair was short.  of course it just made me more angry because i didn’t want it that short to begin with…the hairdresser screwed up. the way she had it styled that first day WAS pretty masculine, but once i washed all the crap out of it and let it get some natural movement back it was kind of pretty and cute (just not for me, lol).  even if it wasn’t though…that’s just not the sort of thing you assume.  sort of like someone asking a girl with a bit of a tummy when she’s due, only to find out she’s not pregnant.  (i’ve had that happen to me too.  🙁  )

Post # 15
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

My favorite gay stereotype is, “Oh no, he’s gay!  I’ve got to get away from him before he rapes me!”  WTF?!  Most of the time it’s men who say stupid crap like that.  They think just because a guy is gay, and they’re also a guy, that the gay person will automatically be attracted to them and won’t be able to resist any sexual urges.

My little cousin (who really can’t be blamed for her poor upbringing), commented on a FB picture of someone breastfeeding outdoors.  She wrote, “Don’t you think that’s inappropriate?  Are you a lesbian or something?”  So, I guess only lesbians breastfeed in public…

Post # 16
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have heard that stereotype before and I always hated it. My Mom has short hair and my SO’s Mom has pretty much the same hair cut as my Mom…both are straight. My Mom is WAY more of a girly girl than I am and I have medium-long hair.

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