Post # 1
I really want to know where the heck the stereotype that a girl must be a lesbian when she has short boy-cut hair came about? I’ve had short hair for three years and I’m very feminine so maybe this is why I haven’t really dealt with this as much as others, but I knew someone who was at the mall with me a few months ago and guys were betting on if she was a guy or a girl behind her back. We overheard them and said something but since she had short hair and was dressed in boy clothes they assumed she was one. I was like…hello, what does it matter?
Post # 3
I get that Wayyyy too often
I have very very short hair (similar to yours).
Once, wearing a collared boy shirt, guy comes up and says, “I bet you’re a lot like me. I bet you like girls.” I was just like, hmmmmmm.
Its usually only drunk d bags out at bars. I think the most offensive is when I’m told that I’m a ‘cute’ lesbian—as in most lesbians are unattractive?? blarrrggh.
I really don’t get it, I mean my ex had glorious long hair and people didn’t assume he was gay or feminine.
whateves, I think short hair on girls is ra–add
Post # 4
I don’t really get it either! Granted I’m okay with it.. one of my best friends has really short hair and we’ve definitely gotten discounts before because the servers/baristas thought we were a couple. I kid you not.
Post # 5
@fiver: I agree. I would love to cut mine super masculine short just to see how it feels (must talk to Darling Husband first to see if he’d like it). I like to style it in faux-hawks sometimes and Darling Husband thinks it’s sexy, so I don’t know what people’s issue sometimes is. I view hair as an accesory, it grows back!
Post # 6
Is just this lame idea that long hair define girly girls. Guys wear long hair all the time too.
I’ve never heard someone IRL refering to a girl as a lesbian just cause she wears short hair but I’m aware of the stereotype.
Post # 7
One time I got called a lesbian because I held the door open for my friend (a female). I was like…umm what? There are lots of gender/sexual orientation stereotypes out there that make NO sense whatsoever.
Post # 8
…..personally I think everyone is kind of gay
Post # 9
My BFF and I used to both have pixie cuts (she still has hers, I’ve been growing mine out for a change) and when we’d be out shopping together or eating or whatever people sometimes thought we were a couple. Weird as shit.
Post # 10
I have to admit, the pixie cut hasn’t been as mainstream popular until recently. Maybe these people just haven’t been exposed enough to it yet. There’s always going to be ignoramuses out there. The trick is to not care what they think/say. I’ve seen pics of your pixie and it looks super cute on you. And no, I did not think “lesbian” when I saw it.
Post # 11
Since when do people think pixie cuts are for lesbians only! Holy cow! I’m friends with a girl who has super short hair because, guess what? She LIKES it that way! She’s said that she has problems dating and is on those online dating sites and some of the things those low life loser guys tell her are along the lines of “you’d be cute if you grew your hair out”.
I love seeing girls who can rock a short cut and wish I had to courage to do a major awesome chop.
Post # 12
@Koolbeans621: Second that.
Oddly enough, I have people often thinking I’m gay, and I have long hair, fairly feminine looking. I think people make those judgments based on looks often, but people also make those judgments based on attitude as well.
Post # 13
@Eight6Eleven: wow that’s insane. Long hair doesn’t make you feminine anymore than having a penis makes you a man.
Post # 14
yeah i got that sometimes when my hair was short. of course it just made me more angry because i didn’t want it that short to begin with…the hairdresser screwed up. the way she had it styled that first day WAS pretty masculine, but once i washed all the crap out of it and let it get some natural movement back it was kind of pretty and cute (just not for me, lol). even if it wasn’t though…that’s just not the sort of thing you assume. sort of like someone asking a girl with a bit of a tummy when she’s due, only to find out she’s not pregnant. (i’ve had that happen to me too. 🙁 )
Post # 15
My favorite gay stereotype is, “Oh no, he’s gay! I’ve got to get away from him before he rapes me!” WTF?! Most of the time it’s men who say stupid crap like that. They think just because a guy is gay, and they’re also a guy, that the gay person will automatically be attracted to them and won’t be able to resist any sexual urges.
My little cousin (who really can’t be blamed for her poor upbringing), commented on a FB picture of someone breastfeeding outdoors. She wrote, “Don’t you think that’s inappropriate? Are you a lesbian or something?” So, I guess only lesbians breastfeed in public…
Post # 16
I have heard that stereotype before and I always hated it. My Mom has short hair and my SO’s Mom has pretty much the same hair cut as my Mom…both are straight. My Mom is WAY more of a girly girl than I am and I have medium-long hair.