(Closed) So, I need to get this off my chest…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I understand how your feeling, I have a friend getting married 2 weeks before me as well, but instead of letting it bother me I decided to be excited! I have someone who is always interested in my wedding plans so I don’t have to worry about talking about my wedding too much, we get to enjoy the pre wedding season together, and I can learn from her mistakes and get and give advice (ie: bridal shower games that failed, not so fun bachlorette party, etc). I know it can be a little frustrating but its just a perspective thing…. (although I will say I was worried so much about my bachlorette party since it was just one week before her wedding that it would turn into her party and not mine, or that dates for showers would conflict, but it has all gone great, I never tried to take her thunder and she didn’t take mine!)

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Oh and you are so not pathetic, I think your feelings are totally normal!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You’re right, you should go eat a cookie.

And yes, a certainly feel a bit of that! I almost went CRAZY last spring when FOUR, yes FOUR of my friends, ALL of who had been dating their bf for less time than my Fiance and I had been together, got engaged. I was genuinely happy for them, but crazy jealous that it wasn’t me. I was the one who should have gotten to be making the, “We’re engaged!” calls… But, it wasn’t to be. In the end, my engagement story ended up being WAY better than most of theirs (ha. i’ m such a snot.)

I know every bride techinically only gets her “one day,” but I think we all secretly hope we’ll be the only one in focus for our entire engagement. 🙂

As my Maid/Matron of Honor says, “It’s ok to be a little bit crazy as long as you can step back and see that you’re being a little bit crazy.” And it sounds like you can. 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Normal probably at least a little. Completely and totally unreasonable yes, absolutley.

Have some sex and forget about it 😛

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

In that case you’re hooped!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can kind of relate. We got engaged last September and started planning our wedding for the following October. Since we set our date, two of FI’s female cousins have announced weddings before ours! I can’t really blame the one cousin because they’ve been engaged for close to four years, I just thought when they finally picked a date, it wouldn’t be quite so soon. We thought for sure we’d end up married before them. His other cousin got engaged AFTER we did and is getting married a month BEFORE us. Grr. And as far as I can tell, we’re not invited to either wedding because we know they’ve sent Save the Dates and we didn’t get one.

I worry about really petty things, like, all his family will be comparing my wedding to theirs and worse yet, they’ll have already spent money on two wedding gifts before they get to us so maybe we won’t get as much. I know it’s terrible to be upset about such things, but I am. It’s tough to feel like you have to share the spotlight.

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