(Closed) so i ruined my future engagement… rant

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

So, let me make sure I understand correctly. He got a ring. You know he has the ring, but he hasn’t asked you yet?

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

HAHA I’m sort of in the same boat too.  My SO told me that it was going to happen VERY soon and to expect to be married in a year.  I got so excited that I told my parents and my friends from work.  Still today, they’re like “where’s the ring”?

i hate it

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would bet he is waiting to try to throw you off the ‘scent of the trail’. I sort of did the same thing, but in actuality, I was totally surprised and it happened way before I expected it. I didn’t know it was happening at all.

Post # 6
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I kinda did this too…still waiting for my ring. Difference is I know he bought mine in AUGUST…like seriously what’s the hold up?!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It just kinda sucks now, cuz if he does anything super romantic or out of his character, Im going to totally expect a proposal and not be suprised

 

If anything, I totally ruined the enjoyment for me.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Arrrgggh!! I wouldn’t be able to patient like ya’ll have been. I would like, “WHERE”S THE RING!” I would totally pull a Charlotte–when she is yelling at Harry. I would go nuts.

 

Post # 10
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Agh!  This is the very reason I joined this board!

I started telling people right after Mr. MidwestGroom took me to get my ring finger sized… more than two months ago.  Since then it seems all anyone wants to talk to me about is where “the bling” is, so I’ve tried to steer clear of wedding talk. 

We’re planning a wedding for Labor Day weekend of THIS year, and we’ve gotten so much done already.  I’m ecstatic!  But I have no one to share the excitement with me because I’ve gotten so bitter about the waiting.  It’s making me so sad because this really is such a happy time. 

Also, we need to be sending out our save-the-dates (the venue is booked and paid for) ASAP, but since we’re not engaged… ??

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

awww – try not to stress about it! it’s coming soon i’m sure!

Post # 12
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1103 posts
Bumble bee

@ midwestbride – I’m pretty sure you’re engaged 🙂 You might not have a ring, but you’ve got a wedding planned, which is awesome! I would just announce your engagement and say the ring is on its way (if it is – no need for a ring at all), you deserve to share your excitement with everyone, it’s half the fun!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

well i kinda got stuck in that limbo! I chose all parts of my engagement ring and it was custom made. . .and the deal was that since I was all up in the ring I wouldn’t be all up in the proposal — and it would be a surprise. . . So while I was excited about the ring — now I didn’t know when it was coming. . .

 

But be paitent ladies b/c it could be that trip to walmart and instead it happens.  At least that’s my story.  LOL.  That’s where I though we were going.

But maybe some communication is in order — I’m sure your SO has his own views on the situation — is he helping you spread the word? What is he saying about your predicament — maybe that could give you an idea about how to proceed — feeling bitter is so not a good thing . . .

 

My Fiance was even helping me tell people, also he let it spill that the reason I was still waiting is b/c he wanted to surprise me & also talk to me Dad in person. . .

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ok you definitely need to STOP talking about it with your friends/family. How would he feel knowing you are spreading it around before he even asked? Does he know? Maybe that’s why he hasn’t asked you yet. Believe me, guys take this very seriously. My fiance and I talked months and months about getting engaged and it got to the point where he would have to tell me before a big holiday or date that no I’m not proposing so I wouldn’t get my hopes up. He really wanted it to be special but felt like my talking about it ALLLL the time was ruining it.

Just take a break from wedding, he has the ring so you know it’s going to happen. Just stop talking about it and let it alone and I promise, he will do it and he will totally surprise you. My fiance had everyone involved and even told me it wasn’t happening and orchestrated this big proposal and I had no idea. It was great!

Relax, it will happen! Hang in there, sweetie!! *hugs*

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah when I knew Fiance was in the process of buying the ring I mostly kept it to myself. There were a couple friends I blabbed to, but even to them I didn’t tell all teh facts like I knew he was buying it – I phrased it more like I ‘hoped’ he would buy it soon, but had no idea what was happening. I knew they would tell other people (gossip), so my plan worked perfectly, people talked about it behind my back but never to my face since I didn’t ‘know’ if it was happening. So I didn’t have to deal with people asking ‘where is the bling?’

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