Post # 1
After much deliberation I told SO that I can’t do this anymore and that it is time for me to go my own way, and for him to figure out what he wants in his life. If he figures out that it is me then maybe we can discuss that but I might also just not be into the whole thing anymore, and therefore I am not promising anything. He says that he understands why I need to do this, but thinks he will come around and we will get back together and get married over the next few months. That would be nice, but I’m not holding my breath waiting for it to happen. He was very upset, and I am too, but I know that it will be worse if I wait around another year or two. I did call him once after to see if he was okay, and replied briefly to an email he sent asking me something, but that is it.
I’m not crying, I guess I feel more like I’m in shock or something, and I miss him a whole lot already. I’m just trying to tell myself that if it was meant to be it would work out, and if not, then there’s at least a day coming up for me when it won’t hurt quite so much when I think of him. I guess me walking also means that we (hopefully) both get what we want out of life and the chance to be happy. Thanks, bees, for all your help.
Post # 3
Best of luck finding true love and happiness!
Do not contact him; it will only make moving on with your life that much harder.
Get lots of sleep and if you can afford it treat yourself to a facial or massage.
Post # 4
Sending you love and strenght, take care of yourself.
Post # 5
Sorry that you’re going through such a tough time. I hope things work out for you – whether you end up back together or not, hopefully you end up happy.
Post # 6
@Anise: Yeah – will be trying to not do that. Also because I get all sad when I think of his voice.
Thank you – I hope I find some peace with this decision – it sure is hard, I feel like my heart has been slapped or something, and I don’t have any gut feeling, just the knowledge that this same situation a year from now is unacceptable.
Post # 7
I wish you all the best, stay strong!
Post # 8
@MariaW: Oh, hon, I know you’re sad. The longer you can go with no contact the easier moving on with your life will be. I wish you all the best!
One more thing: Keep reminding yourself you deserve better than someone who would let things get to the point you had to go to these lengths. You know in your heart it shouldn’t be like this. A man who loves you doesn’t behave the way this man has.
Post # 9
@Sunfire: I know you’re right – maybe I will leave my phone with a friend or something. And I think he does love me, but we’re not right for marriage for each other, and with the right person it wouldn’t be like this. But gosh, it is hard – I hope I’ll continue to be strong once the feeling of shock translates into sad.
Post # 10
It’s hard, but it’s the right thing to do. Give yourself goals for not contacting him (even responding to his email or phone calls)–take it one day at a time, but give yourself little presents like Ice Cream after 1 week no contact, New Shoes after 1 month, etc.
Good Luch and it will get easier!
Post # 11
((Hugs)) I know that must have been a very hard thing to do, but I admire your courage to make such a difficult decision and I truly believe that no matter what happens everything will work itself out for the best.
Post # 12
You will be sad. Very sad at times and this is normal. It sucks but what sucks more is being with someone that isn’t 110% about the relationship. That is more painful!
Good luck and you will be just fine I swear!
Post # 13
Sorry to hear that your relationship has ended. Good for you for making the decision that you feel is best for you.
Post # 14
@KoiKove: That’s a good idea – too bad I can’t think of anything I would like right now except SO, but maybe soon I’ll come up with something. Thank you for the suggestion.
Post # 15
For those who have walked before: Does it get harder before it gets easier? How long did it take you to be okay again, or did you just get used to feeling like something was missing from your life?
Post # 16
It will be hard at times, but do what you can to stay busy. I’m sure there are things that you want to try, see, do. Now is the time to really just focus on you and your (individual) happiness. Definitely don’t rush into anything new – none of that rebound b.s. Just you…
What’s meant to be, will be. And you will be happy. 🙂