Post # 62
Forget about me – I was livid when my Fiance got hit on. He went back to school for a post-grad certificate while I was finishing my degree in a different city. He got close with some of his classmates, since we didn’t have many friends where he was living. One night they all went to a bar (prof included) and he called me afterwards to tell me this story.
Apparently, a girl from class was dogging him all night – just being overly flirty and asking super personal questions. He decided to leave early since he was sober (DD) and she was getting annoying. She followed him out to the parking lot, cornered him by his car and said something along the lines of “HEY! I think we should hook up tonight”. When he said “Uhhh…I have a gf, you know that!” she said something like “But she doesn’t live here and I think we’d have a lot of fun”. So he declined again, got in his car and she knocked on his window to ask him if she could get in because she was fine with hooking up in a car.
UM WHAT? Yeah yeah yeah, I know we were engaged or anything, but I had met half of his classmates and he talked about me all the time (background on his computer was a pic of us!!). It was totally an ego boost for my SI though LOL
For me, my ring seems to have illicited the opposite reaction – earlier this week, my favourite cashier at the grocery store was chatting with me, looked down and saw my ring, gave me a dirty look and made me pay for my plastic bags when he used to give them free. I had an “Oh, dang” moment LOL
Post # 63
I went out last weekend and this guy asked me for my number. I told him I was married (I was out with girlfriends) and he said, ‘so? we can still be friends’ in an unconvincing manner.
Post # 64
I agree …. ick!! I’ve been hit on by other men since being engaged/married…. even ones who knew I wasn’t single. Darling Husband takes it as a compliment (as long as the creepers don’t creep too much).
Post # 65
I went to a holiday party without my husband last year, and TWO guys at the party asked my friend if I was “taken”. After informing them I was married, they asked her, “Well, is she happy?”
It was a group of people in their late 30s/early 40s, all with kids and most of them on their 2nd marriage. I really, really hope this is not behavior I have to look forward to when Darling Husband and I get to be this age….
Post # 66
Ya..the stylist (male) who’s doing my hair for wedding said to me during the trial “Why are you getting married? It’s not too late to call off the wedding. Don’t worry, if you call it off I will refund your deposit” WTF?!
Post # 67
@Treejewel19: I used to think this, too, because the first few months I was engaged I found that I was getting a lot more male attention. It has calmed down since then, but I totally think that when certain men see something they can’t have, they want it more!
Post # 68
Some people just don’t know how to take “no” for an answer.
There is an older man (probably late 50’s early 60’s) that works in my office tower and he creeps me the eff out. He always makes comments about what shoes I’m wearing, and the one time I had to ride an elevator alone with him I could see him just looking me up and down (seriously, not even trying to hide it) because the insides of the elevator are mirrored! I have never been so uncomfortable in my entire life and I hauled ass out of that elevator as soon as the doors opened.
I still see him somtimes in the cafeteria and he still makes no effort to hide his eye-humping even with a whole crowd of people standing around. I’m *thisclose* to telling him where to stick it and not caring who hears me.
Post # 69
I was proposed to in front of a courthouse (I work for a law firm) by a man who I am 90% sure was there for unsavory reasons. I also had a guy take me aside in a bar, after I told him I had a boyfriend, to have a very serious conversation with me about how serious my relationship was and asking where my boyfriend was now. And of course the occassional drunk guy in a bar who, when I would tell them I had a boyfriend, say things like “Well, he’s not here right now, is he?” or “I can be your boyfriend tonight.” Classy. No ring yet, but it’s coming within the next week or so, we’ll see how/if that changes things.
Post # 70
Maaan, even just remembering this makes me uneasy, but years ago I was manning my company’s booth at a financial services-type roadshow when this financial adviser (wearing nice suit, bluetooth headset, looking professional) comes up to me, starts chatting and then within a couple of minutes says out of the blue, “Look, I hope you don’t mind me saying, but I really, really want to have sex with you right now,” and after me being gobsmacked and completely lost for words but nervously mumbling about my engagement (was not engaged, but I often wear rings on that finger, thank God), he kept asking me when I was fniishing and said he would wait around for me. I honestly did not know what to say because I am not assertive in situations like this, but luckily a colleague drove me to the train station later. I then had to deal with him on the phone a couple of times, which was super awkward, before I plainily refused to deal with him.
Post # 71
Some men, it doesn’t even matter. You could be wearing a veil 24/7 and they would find a way to “look past it”.
Post # 72
Uhhhhh CREEPY! Haha! Why would someone say that?! Gross.
Post # 73
I remember one time I was out at an arcade place with my SO. He was around the corner from me and these guys asked if I wanted in on their pizza they bought. I knew what they were up to but decided to play along, So I said sure, grabbed a couple slices of pizza. The one guy proceeded to ask for my number, to which I responded “Sorry already taken” as I turned and walked away with their slices of pizza, much to they’re surprise. It was pretty hilarious if you ask me considering it took place within about 2 minutes time.
I have also had some creepy occurances with guys too, but I try not to remember them.
My SO is a total ladies man, girls just seem to flock to him but he is totally oblivious to flirtation. I sometimes have to remind him that things he says may be taken the wrong way by girls even though he means nothing by them. He is jsut being nice and funny, friendly but girls love that after all. Silly boys.
OMG I just remember the guy in highschool that wouldn’t get the hint. He seriously wouldn’t leave me alone, he would talk to me any chance he got, basically begging me to go out with him. This went on for weeks, I finally started talking to his best friend and went out for lunch with his best friend just to piss him off so he would leave me alone. It worked surprisingly. He was so creepy, ahh, I saw him a few weeks ago at the store and couldn’t help but scowl at him.
Post # 74
This stories are so funny! Guys are creepers, its like we are preys and they’re hunters in a challenge.
I remember another one. I was vivisting my home town and went out with a few friends. My best friend bumped into someone she hadn’t seen in a few years and started flirting with him. I then realized that I had gone to elementary and middle school with him so we started saying the usual I moved here after high school, working at so and so, and I’m getting married in a little over a year. The guy not only started ignoring my friend but could not stop talking to me and asked if I wanted to hang out while I was in town and maybe chat over drinks and go see a movie. I was trying to steer the conversation back to my friend and trying to highlight how awesome she was but he just didn’t get it. It got to the point in which I told my friend I was too tired and needed to go home. So we left, my friend wasn’t happy but she got over it pretty quick.
Post # 75
I’ve had a few skeezy guys make comments after I tell them I’m engaged, but nothing really sticks out as super gross.
I do remember one night when Fiance and I had only been dating a few months, he went to a bar with me and two girlfriends. He left to go talk to another friend he ran into and get us drinks, and these three guys came over and started hitting on us. We were doing that dance girls do to get away from the creeper that’s standing over your shoulder, where you sort of walk between your two other friends and shift the triangle, which was funny enough in itself, but then Fiance came over (who is 6feet tall, bald, and was at that time training in MMA so he was jacked) and handed us each a beer and looked at the three guys. I distinctly remember all three audibly going “awwwww,” hanging their heads, and walking away. It was awesome.
Post # 76
Oh my gosh, these are some crazy stories! I used to get hit on at work all the time, when I was with my ex. He thought it was funny. Since I’ve been engaged though, I have had crazy amounts of guys hitting on me. One of my guy friends that I used to have a crush on and wanted to date before I met my fiancé, texted me a few times after he found out we got engaged. He kept saying he was an idiot because he really liked me and was just afraid of not having the time to put into a relationship at that time. The first few months he’d text me every now and then and ask if I was still engaged.
Then there was one day I was out shopping with my fiancé and he was on one side of the store and I was on the other and this guy kept following me everywhere I went. If I started looking at one rack of shirts, he’d come over and start looking at them too, and he kept giving me this weird smile. I kept making sure when I picked something up that my ring was really obvious and then he asked me if it was an engagement ring. I said yup and he was like “oh too bad, we would have made a hot couple.” I just looked at him goofy and then my fiancé came over. Apparently he had been watching him the entire time and asked the guy if he saw anything he liked. He was like “uh yeah these are some nice shirts.” So he goes “why are you being a weirdo and following my fiancé all around the store? You wanna get knocked out?” He ran out of the store pretty fast.
My fiancé gets hit on all the time too, even when we’re out together. Once when we were out at a bar, he went in to get us a more drinks while I was outside talking to my friends. My friends said they wanted to go somewhere else, so I went in to tell him to close out our tab when he got the drinks and when I walked up behind him at the bar, I heard him saying “No, I’m engaged” to this pretty blonde girl standing next to him. Then I hear her say “Oh come on, one drink, she’ll never know.” He said “I don’t have drinks with any girl but my girl.” She said something like “Well how about for tonight I be your girl.” I squeezed myself right in between them and made her spill her drink all over herself and gave him a big kiss and told him not to bother getting the drinks because we were going somewhere with fewer whores.