(Closed) So I'm going to get my haircut…and I think my husband will hate it!

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Post # 18
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@peachacid:  He should want you to be happy, but on the same token you should want him to be happy. It’s a small thing to me. Either way, it’s your hair and you’ve made your decision. Just for me personally, I consider my husband’s preferences when I make decisions. If it’s something small I can give him and it’s something he really wants, why not? I can always compromise and throw my hair up in the “dreaded bun” when I don’t feel like dealing with it. Short hair, but temporarily.

So many women seem to see it as a control thing. He’s also coming dress shopping with me because I don’t want to choose something, and pay thousands of dollars for something,  that he thinks is ugly. It does go both ways – he shaves his facial hair because it’s how I prefer it.

Post # 19
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  • Wedding: October 2013

I really can’t believe the comments on here.  If you want to do something for you and try a new hairstyle your partner shouldn’t be shallow enough to ‘hate it’.  If you want to get a haircut he should be supportive.  It’s just hair, it will grow back.  That much stock shouldn’t be put into physical appearance.  Definitely given me a new appreciation  for my man. 

Post # 21
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@peachacid:  I let him do what he wants too. He chooses to do what I prefer, same as I choose to keep my hair long. It’s not like he says, “you must do this.” I just know he prefers it and so that’s what I do. It’s really not a big deal. You asked a question, I answered it. I’m not judging you for it, I just said what I would do.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@peachacid:  I have been in your shoes! I had long wavy hair and REALLY wanted to try a pixie cut. DH told me that he didn’t want me to, wouldnt like it, blah blah etc. I had made up my mind and told him that I was going to do it anyway but that if he really truly hated it, I would grow it out. i now have a pixie and he and everyone else loves it! I have never felt more confident and beautiful and while DH admits he will always prefer long hair, he still thinks I’m beautiful and sexy and loves me no matter what. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s how I see it, really and truly: it’s just hair! It WILL grow back, if you or your DH doesn’t like it and in the meantime? He will still love you and it won’t be the end of the world. I say go for it!!

 

 

 

Post # 23
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@peachacid:  My DH is pretty open minded but yes he prefers my hair long like it is now. I got a bad hair cut during our first year of dating which resulted in fixing the hair cut by cutting my hair shorter. It was soooooo short. Like a grown out pixie long and I do not have the face/body for a pixie let me tell you.

I hated it, he hated it but you know what oh well. Hair grows.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I cut my hair pretty short a few months after the wedding. I know my husband doesn’t like short hair and he told me before hand that he’d prefer my hair long, but I did it anyways! Nobody died and he didn’t stop loving me lol. I could tell that it wasn’t his favorite, but he always complimented me anyways. Now that it’s grown out quite a bit, he’s a little more honest and tells me that he really did like it short when I straightened and styled it. But I have curly hair so that wasn’t very often. 

Post # 25
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  • Wedding: December 2013

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@MrsPanda99:  I agree with you. I wouldn’t want to do anything that would make my husband find me unattractive.

Luckily we do have similar views on what looks good.. like I can’t see either of us wanting me to have a pixie cut, for example.

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband probably prefers longer hair, but my hair is really thin and doesn’t look nice at all When it’s long. My hair actually looks like the cut in your picture, A-symmetrical at the back. It’s what suits me ad my face, and I’m quite sure that even tho he likes longer hair he more appreciates me having a hair but that makes me look my best. 

Too Much Information warning..stop reading now if you don’t want to know about my sex life! Lol. 

My dh always says as long as my hair is long enough that it still tickles his stomach when I go down on him in bed, then it’s perfect. Lol. I figure it’s the least I can do. 

Post # 27
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@canarydiamond:  Exactly! I had long hair when I met him, it’s not like I grew it out for him. It’s what I prefer anyway. However, on those days where I’m like, UGH I HATE LONG HAIR, I still keep it because…well, who doesn’t want to be attractive in their partner’s eyes? Things like that matter to me. Generally you don’t start dating people you find unattractive, so why become unattractive just because you get married? I don’t get it. I will always keep fit and look the best I can!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

ohh I feel your anxiety!

I had super long hair for my DH for about 5 years straight cuz that’s what he liked – I then decided I needed a change AND found a good cause to donate to and voila, he saw how much I wanted to do it and said he didn’t want to hold me back so poof! 12″ gone to women with cancer –

 

 

its going to take a few years to get back to the previous length but that shouldn’t be a problem… I asked him a month ago if he thought I should keep the long bob and get it trimmed back to as short as it was when I first cut it and he said nahhh, let it grow out – so I had my little adventure and he still loves me – as will yours!

 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@MrsPanda99:  +1

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I do what I want with my hair and don’t consider I need anyone else’s approval either but I would consider DH’s views if he had really strong preferences either way.

As it happens, he liked my hair when it was short but now says he really likes it long. Since I like it long we’re both happy. But then he’s not the most observant about hairstyles anyway. Once upon a time I once had a few pink streaks put into the front of my hair. Three days later my stepdaughter came round and said how much she liked them. At that point he said “Oh shit! You’ve been to the hairdresser haven’t you?” . He’s never been allowed to forget that particular failure on the observation front! 

Ultimately I’d always advise women to do what they choose with their hair but I don’t think it is necessarily controlling to consider their partner’s feelings before they do. 

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