(Closed) So I'm not married yet but were ttc

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

Are you sure that it is YOU that can’t conceive (ie its your eggs that are issue-causing?) what about him?  Are you sure that his sperm is okay?

I would get a sperm analysis done on him before you take on anymore feelings of you being the one who can’t get pregnant.

Post # 4
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3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Antidepressants and bcp will not hinder pregnancy. I would advise you to speak withs fertility specialist. 

Post # 5
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@love108:  I agree. 

Especially since you’ve said you’re on fertility pills – what are you on?  Clomid?  Why has the doc put you on it?  Do you have PCOS? 

Also, I follow up; Has your fiancee had a sperm analysis?  He may not have good sperm.  This is a possibility a lot of people forget when TTC I think. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I say take your time you are only 22. You have a life time and when you put so much importance on conceiving the stress makes it harder to conceive. I worked for a male infertility special. Relax stop thinking about it take a break and do other things, go away for a weekend, and stop making it your focus and it will happen when it is time.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Not judging you at all. I have just never heard anyone say they wanted to get pregnant before getting married and they wanted to do it on purpose. So I’m just wondering how this decision came about? Like I said, just curious, cause I never heard of it purposely going that way.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m also curious why you’re trying to hard to get pregnant before getting married at 22.  Since you mentioned it in the title of your post, I’m assuming you don’t mind discussing why. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I was a bit concerned too because it sounded like she’s desperate to ‘give’ her fiancé a child. 

Post # 10
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What, are you afraid he’s not going to marry you if you can’t “give” him a kid? Find a new man, honey! Better to know that now than after the wedding!

Post # 11
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ok I won’t answer “is it bad” since technically that’s not your question. Is it wierd? Yes. And not because your TTC but because your 22 and in a rush to “give him a kid before your married. ” This screams issues. It would be more admirable if you were the girl that had the commitment before you gave him a kid. You’re only 22, are you worried he’ll eave you? A baby doesn’t solidify or create something that isn’t there in the first place. 

Post # 12
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Since you asked for opinions, yes i do find it very strange that you are ttc before marriage at the age of 22.  I am also 22 and this is definitely not the norm in my circle of friends.  Why do you want to have a baby before marriage? And why does it need to happen so soon?

Post # 13
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7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Well… at 22 with plans to get married, it’s unusual to be trying to purposefully get pregnant before getting married. Why do you feel the need to give your fiance a child before you get married? What’s the reasoning behind your choice to have the child before you get married? Especially with how young you are, I’d want the security of being married before having a child.  I feel like there’s a lot more story here.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are you seeing a RE? I ask because if you’re on fertility pills then a doctor should be monitoring you pretty closely (I’m on fertility drugs myself). 

As for TTC before marriage, no judgments here at all–I just wonder why you’re so worried about having a baby right now.

ETA:  I’m surprised that a doctor prescribed fertility drugs for you since you can’t have been trying more than 8 months. At your age you have to have been trying for a year before you’re considered to be having fertility issues. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you should go to a doctor instead of taking pills/herbs from the internet.

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