Post # 1
So I originally thought he was going to ask me in a hot air balloon..which freaked me out, but I warmed up to the idea. Not completely… seriously terrified me still, but I got over it. Because he was doing the 1 and only thing I asked for..a PRIVATE proposal. I am a very shy person and I would be mortified if he asked with a bunch of people around.
So, just now he hints that we’re going to the Cardinals game tomorrow night (we live in St Louis..) and I’m like.. oh hell no. If he asks me on the jumbo tron I will seriously flip out, in a not good way. That is literally hands down THE WORST POSSIBLE WAY HE COULD EVER PROPOSE. Because I am unreasonable, I immediately said.. You aren’t going to propose on the jumbo tron right? Because you know that is honestly the worst possible thing you could ever do.. And he just got this ridiculous smile on his face..usually when I catch him doing something he’s not supposed to do.. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I honestly think I might say no… How could someone who is asking me to be with him forever, who supposedly knows me better than anyone else, ask me to marry him in a way that would truly embarrass me and give me a true anxiety attack?
I feel sick.
I know I’m being ridiculous… but he is sometimes a little absent minded and I can’t believe he would do this to me.. but he is SUCH a huge baseball fan.. so am I..but still…. There is no way.. I would be one of those people who runs away live on camera.
Post # 3
he totally just smiled like that to throw you off…
Post # 4
i really really hope so… the reasonable side of my brain is saying that as well. thanks for posting that.
Post # 5
maybe he plans to ask you before or after the game-or-maybe he just wants you to think that is when he is going to ask you
Honestly, I hope you wouldn’t say no just because of that, but I also don’t think he would do that to you if you have told him you want it to happen in a private area
sorry your having such anxiety over it all!
Post # 6
@RedRoses2013: absolutely, think about it….he obviously wants the proposal to be a surprise- do you think he would have a big grin on his face if you guessed when and where he was going to do it?! of course not!
Post # 7
@RedRoses2013: So you would say no to the man you love just because he wants to show you his love by maybe proposing at a baseball game? Do you really hear yourself? The proposal is not about you, it is about you and him. Yes it is not the proposal you are looking for but seriously he loves you he wants to show the world how much.
Post # 8
I’ve always been of the opinion that if a man will 1) propose to you with a ring that you would absolutely hate or 2)propose in a way that you would absolutely hate that he either a)doesn’t know you well enough to be proposing or b)doesn’t care enough about your feelings to consider them when proposing, and in either case, maybe a marriage isn’t the best idea.
I personally love jumbotron proposals, but that’s just me. I can see how that would bother some people. Some people don’t like being the centre of attention. I’m not a big fan of Disney proposals, especially the super cheesy over the top ones. If that’s what you (you as in general other people) are into, fine. It’s just not my thing at all. I flat out told my Boyfriend or Best Friend if he did a Disney proposal I would say no. After that he kept joking that he was going to do this crazy over the top proposal complete with Disney characters and a pony smack in the middle of a Disney parade. (He didn’t, btw).
I would honestly recommend you sit down with your Boyfriend or Best Friend and have a calm conversation about why you would not want to be proposed to on the jumbotron. Let him know that it would make you really uncomfortable and probably cause you to have a panic attack.
Post # 9
I bet asks before the game.
Let us know how it goes and try to enjoy the game!
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: Actually, I think this is different than not being the proposal she’s looking for. OP said she’s really shy and would be mortified/have an anxiety attack. If he, knowing that, went ahead and asked her on the jumbotron, then the proposal is not really all about them. Or. Something.
OP… he’s probably messing with you. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 12
@Sassygrn: and what about that proposal is exactly about “you and him” and not all about “him”?
the OP gets anxiety attacks over things like this for gods sake
Post # 13
We went to a hockey game on our first date and some guy proposed on the jumbotron while we were there. I told him right then and there (yes, on our FIRST date) that if this went anywhere, he could NEVER propose using a jumbotron. It kinda became ‘our thing’ cause he knew just how much I would hate it. He’s a huge sports fan and every time we went to a game, he’d tease that this was ‘it’. It came to a point that I hated going to games cause I was always afraid he’d do it, even though he knew I would absolutely hate it.
In the end, he proposed at 2am on the top deck of a cruise ship. It was just the two of us and you can’t get much more private than the middle of the ocean in the middle of the night. He knew me well enough to know that’s what I would be comfortable with and it was perfect. 🙂 We didn’t even tell the family we were traveling with until around lunch time the next day so we could get a bit more time of our ‘private’ engagement.
Anyway, that was a REALLY long-winded way of saying that your honey probably knows exactly what you want and really does want to make you happy. I’m sure he’s just trying to throw you off.
Post # 14
I’m willing to bet money he is just messing with you to throw you off.
Post # 15
I guessed how my SO might propose before it happened, in a ‘please don’t do it this way!’ sort of way…and trust me, he was NOT smiling. I agree with PPs that he is just teasing to throw you off.
Post # 16
Ops! I totally forgot to finish my thoughts! I meant to finish by saying your Boyfriend or Best Friend is probably just bugging you, and your propsal will probably be wonderful . I also fully agree with @allergicbee, if he does plan on the jumbotron proposal, it’s all about him and not about her. He’s not taking her feelings into consideration at all, and the fact that she could even have a panic attack. If I were in the OP’s shoes I would say no!