- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I would normally be inclined to say that each party should be responsible for keeping their own parents in check, but you kind of hung him out to dry and didn’t leave him much choice.
You made a decision TOGETHER about how you would handle the holdiays and dinner with your family, and then you bailed on it in the moment.. I know my Fiance and I are super big on being a team (since you used that word I’m assuming you guys are too), and if he ever hung me out with his family like that it would really make me feel betrayed. You’re an adult woman, and it is your responsibility to stand up to you family when it comes to decisions you make with your significant other. You however did not do that. At that point it’s reasonable that he would feel like he needed to stand up for himself.
Honestly, if Fiance left me to fend for myself with his family, I would hate doing it, because I firmly believe that each party of a relationship should be responsible for defending their situation to their respective families when neccesary. A person is obviously much better equipt to deal with their own family than their significant other is, so taking that on for your partner is your responsibility.
That being said, if he took issue with HOW I handled a circumstance he failed to address, I’d be PISSED. I’d feel like he not only hung me out to dry to fend for myself concerning something we had decided together.. but on top of that then had the balls to take issue with how I chose to handle something he had unfairly dumped on me. It would not make me feel good at all.