(Closed) SO "intended" to cheat. But had a change of heart. …WWYD?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Kick him to the curb! : (493 votes)
    90 %
    Forgive him! : (4 votes)
    1 %
    Try to move past it but with serious reservations : (52 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 139
    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    OP, you know what you need to do in your gut.  Don’t let the pressure of your family and friends loving him make you stay with a man you can’t trust and who obviously doesn’t respect you enough to be faithful — or at the absolute minimum, be honest with you when he isn’t faithful.  You are signing up for a lifetime of snooping and wondering and frustration if you marry this man.  He’s so quick to marry you because you’re not giving him consequences for his actions.  You state the consequences: any cheating, and you’re gone.  He was intending to cheat, whether or not he admits to going through with it.  Make good on your end of the bargain and get the hell out of there.  Otherwise, you’ll not only pay for a wedding, you’ll be paying for therapy and probably a divorce lawyer down the line, and take it from me, they cost more than moving out and moving on right now possibly could.

    Value yourself, respect yourself, and trust your gut.  Run far and fast, honey, and this time, do not look back.

    Post # 140
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @anonabee1600:  Dump him. He’s cheated on you before and I think that intent to cheat is nearly as bad as the act itself. Marriage is a lot of work and if he can’t even be faithful to you during the good times then what’s he going to be like through the bad? I’m sorry, but I’ve been here before and I know that no good ever comes of staying with him. He won’t change. 

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