Post # 1
SO just had a face to face interview in FL, and was just offered a more formal interview in Portland, Oregon for his dream job. I really am happy for him, and this is the moment we’ve been waiting for: He wants to get a job, we relocate together, then we get engaged and then married.
I’m scared 🙁 I was born in the city we live in, I’ve lived here all my life, and my heart is suddenly in my throat. Just scared and looking for some advice. I think my SO knows I’m a little freaked out…I don’t want to ruin this exciting moment for him.
Any advice? Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Luckily…Portland is awesome!!!
Post # 4
Ahhhhhhh!!!!! We need to talk if he gets the job. We are living in NJ our whole lives, and moving to Portland in December for work. I am flying out there in two weeks to look at apartments!!!!!!
Post # 5
@veryberry13: What? You aren’t chomping at the bit to get out of FL? Seriously? I lived in FL for like 7 years and couldn’t wait to leave. (Now of course, I want to go back…best beaches anywhere)
Seriously though…calm down. Portland is pretty damn awesome from what I’ve heard, and has a good culture for young couples. Plus, you’re trading hurricane season. It’s scary to move, but think of it as an adventure! Life is about seeing and experiencing new things!!!
Post # 6
@veryberry13: I would welcome the opportunity with open arms so I can’t advise on how to be less anxious. However, I can say that I hope he gets it. Good luck!
Post # 7
Portland is an absolutely amazing city. 🙂 We’re moving there in March, so if he gets the job, feel free to ask me questions. 🙂 Don’t be scared!
Post # 8
wait and see if he gets the job before you get nervous!
Post # 9
Ive heard Portland is amazing! It sounds like the opportunity you’ve been waiting for! Don’t be anxious. Florida will always be there. You can always visit or move back later if you choose to. Jump at this opportunity and get excited for everything that will be coming in the future 🙂
Post # 11
Portland is AWESOME. I really hope to move there in the next few years. If we’re lucky, my FI will get a job he loves there. Fingers crossed!
Hope the job offer comes through. You will love it there.
Post # 12
Wow, a lot of people moving to Portland. I’ve lived here for well over 18 years and I really like it. Don’t be nervous; change is good! Think of it as a grand adventure!
Post # 13
Portland is awesome! I moved here from so cal a little over a year ago! pm me for any info inn the city!
only piece of advice….If you’ve been together a while, I wouldn’t move without a ring or at least a firm understanding that you guys get engaged very quickly after moving. Up rooting your whole life for someone who you aren’t married to is a huge deal!
Post # 14
Girl, I’ve been there. FI had a great job opportunity in southern New Jersey, and we had been living in St. Louis, where I was born, raised, and loved. I never, ever, ever wanted to leave, but FI’s job opportunity was too good to pass up. And I couldn’t think of any place more different from St. Louis than NJ. Now we’ve been in Jersey for a month…do I love it? Not yet. But it’s not as terrible as I thought, and we’re making a lot of great new memories together. Before it was “let’s go to the Arch” – where we’d both been a million times. Now it’s “Let’s go to the Liberty Bell/beach/whatever!” and it’s new and fresh for both of us. Plus, it makes us more interesting. Think how many times you’ve met someone who is new to the area – it’s so cool to just talk to them about where they’re from and the differences in the area – and now you get to be that cool new person!
I’m not going to lie, it’s tough. I miss my family and friends, I miss knowing where everything is, I miss being able to buy wine in the grocery store, etc, etc etc…but friends and family can come visit, and no move is ever permanent. FI and I have an agreement that if I dislike NJ in two years we can move back to StL/wherever I want. Maybe you guys can do a similar agreement?
And really, when it came down to it, I knew that if we didn’t take the opportunity we’d always be wondering “what if”. We’re young, no kids – when is there a better time to shake things up? Plus, it’s made us so much closer, even in just this month. We have to depend on each other – there’s no bitch sessions with girlfriends for me, and no guys nights for him (at least, not yet!) – we have to talk and communicate and rely on each other like never before.
Seriously, though – it’s scary and hard, but it’s not the worst thing ever. And southern NJ is approximately a million times worse than Portland!
Post # 15
@veryberry13: Come to Oregon is it awesome! I live in SW Portland and I am a native, but I left for about a decade and lived in the midwest and the east coast. What do you need to know? What company is he interviewing for? There are so many big ones out here with Nike and Intel. How can I help?
Post # 16
I know moving for the first time moving is hard, but exploring new cities is AMAZING!
I moved once for college, and it sealed my fate! I’ve moved three times since then. I love living in new places!