- 5 years ago
This is waiting-ish, but more about how I’m up to Mr.Bee’s plan and living my life. I’ve stopped talking about weddings since about the end of April. Then he came up to me late last month and said that he wanted to wait to propose. Instead of by the end of the year, he wants to wait for two years.
I’m like “Okay. I have some stuff that I’d like to take care of before we get engaged anyway, so you do whatever you’re doing.” He seemed surprised that I was really relaxed about it and had this look on his face like he was expecting me to “fight about it.”
While I was kind of engagement crazy for a few years before SO set a time line, I’ve reached the conclusion that :we’ve been together for ten years, but while I’d love to marry him ASAP, I’d rather let it happen at a time that is right for us.
So, I’m currently putting together a fundraiser for a NPO that I’ve always donated to. I’ve never done a fundraiser before, so this has been a new and interesting experience. It’s taking a lot of my time.
SO and I usually see each other about three times a week, and talk on the phone daily. I told him that I was going to be very busy for the next few months during my personal spare time with this fundraiser and the associated events. He said that he understood.
Last night, SO called and said that he wanted to come over. I said okay and he came over and said that he disliked how this event was taking up my time, and how I’d turned into someone that he didn’t recognize.
I said, I haven’t changed, we are still together as much as we have been. I’m just taking care of my own stuff and having fun. He agreed, but still didn’t seem convinced.
Then, he said that he wanted me to hand the fundraiser off to someone else. I said “Um, no. This is something that means a lot to me, and I don’t see why I should end my involvement.”
He left, and said that he wasn’t pleased about my decision.
WTH? Does anyone speak “Man-Talk”? Our relationship is the same, we still spend the same amount of time together as we always have, so I’m not getting why he’s so pissy about this. The only thing I can think is that he is concerned that this fundraiser may become more than a one time thing, and will affect our lives down the road. Which it will not, since I made it clear that I will handle things this year, and then an older friend will take it over for the future and told SO that was the plan. So, that’s not it.
Any feedback from my waiting bees?