(Closed) SO is going overseas for almost a month. Already anxious.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@misskittenn:  *Hugs* it’ll be ok!

I am an anxious person too.

I think the best way to cope is to see if it’s possible to schedule phone calls and/or Skype semi regularly. Like every 2 days you can Skype or whatever. That gives you something to look forward to. Even if he is going to be busy, if he can email he can probably Skype, right?

Also, distract yourself. Now would be a good time to find a new TV series to watch on Netflix or dive head-first into a new project. Learn to cook. Work out more, etc. Set some sort of goal for something that you can accomplish while he is away. And keep studying… throw yourself into school.

On the bright side, it is easier since you’re in a semi-LDR already so you’re used to sleeping alone etc., right? That’s really the tough part, for me at least. Going to bed by myself… not good.

Before you know it, he will be back and absence makes the heart grow fonder so you’ll have a great time when he returns. Plan something fun (maybe a weekend away?) that you can look forward to.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Try to invest in calling cards they are a big help when you want to hear his voice even if it is for a few minutes. You said your family is pretty close try to surround yourself with as much family and friends as you can to help you deal with his absence.

I do understand how you feel my Fiance is in Afghainstan and the distance is a trip but we are making it work and support is what gets me through the rough times.

Dont spend time worrying right now…Enjoy the time you have with him even the little things help you to remember when he is not there such as sitting on the couch running your fingers through his hair, making his favorite meals, or just hugging him a little tighter when you are in bed together.

BIG HUG

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Fiance is in the military and I will say this: 3.5 weeks will fly by

Post # 6
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Worker bee

*Hugs* 

Everything will work out. My SO is in the military so I am used to not seing him for more than a few months a time. There a times during the 6 months were he won’t be able to email me text me for days on end. However when I do get that odd email it is so amazing. 

From my experience 

the first two days are the hardest after he leaves, I always keep myself occupied those days i.e reading a good book, or studying as i am full time student. 

I also take the time to spend time with some friends. Like yourself I don’t have many friends where I am but I have 1 or 2 and we have a girls nights. 

After the 2-3 days usually at that time I am finaly adjusted to him being gone however still the most important thing is to keep yourself busy, since if you are sitting around all day you will have nothing to do but think of how much you miss your SO and usually at least for me makes me sad. 

Take for granted those 1 min plus phonecalls or emails, or does he have skype? Set up dates so that you can still talk to eachother and try work out a time that works for both time zones. 

The last few days will begin to get hard again because you are so excited about his home comming. To pass the time usually I do a clean sweep of the house so its nice and clean for him as I know my SO as been living in tents and not the greatest for the last few months. I also usually plan out a nice meal to make for him and date for his homecoming. 

The day of his homecoming I usually get a dolled up and make sure I am looking extra cute which usually takes time and the time passes by. Plus I am sure it will be you that will be picking him at the airport. Those trips I am there always early so I grab a coffee and read my kobo, and I track is flight to when he lands. 

Another small thing I do, when I am in those “I really miss and you need to come home now moods” is I keep on my computer cute emails, texts that he has sent me and I re-read them. It really helps me because I know even though he is busy he is missing me just as much. 

I tend to miss SO aswell a lot when i am going for bed, I know this is super corny but I spray a little bit of his cologne on the build a bear he got me. That way when I get snuggled up for bed I can stil smell him and usually I fall a sleep no problems. 

I know this time will be hard, but it may also benifit as you guys will really realize what you to have his special and can even strengthen your relationship. 

Again *Hugs* and I hope the time passes by quickly for you

Post # 7
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75 posts
Worker bee

*Hugs* 

Everything will work out. My SO is in the military so I am used to not seing him for more than a few months a time. There a times during the 6 months were he won’t be able to email me text me for days on end. However when I do get that odd email it is so amazing. 

From my experience 

the first two days are the hardest after he leaves, I always keep myself occupied those days i.e reading a good book, or studying as i am full time student. 

I also take the time to spend time with some friends. Like yourself I don’t have many friends where I am but I have 1 or 2 and we have a girls nights. 

After the 2-3 days usually at that time I am finaly adjusted to him being gone however still the most important thing is to keep yourself busy, since if you are sitting around all day you will have nothing to do but think of how much you miss your SO and usually at least for me makes me sad. 

Take for granted those 1 min plus phonecalls or emails, or does he have skype? Set up dates so that you can still talk to eachother and try work out a time that works for both time zones. 

The last few days will begin to get hard again because you are so excited about his home comming. To pass the time usually I do a clean sweep of the house so its nice and clean for him as I know my SO as been living in tents and not the greatest for the last few months. I also usually plan out a nice meal to make for him and date for his homecoming. 

The day of his homecoming I usually get a dolled up and make sure I am looking extra cute which usually takes time and the time passes by. Plus I am sure it will be you that will be picking him at the airport. Those trips I am there always early so I grab a coffee and read my kobo, and I track is flight to when he lands. 

Another small thing I do, when I am in those “I really miss and you need to come home now moods” is I keep on my computer cute emails, texts that he has sent me and I re-read them. It really helps me because I know even though he is busy he is missing me just as much. 

I tend to miss SO aswell a lot when i am going for bed, I know this is super corny but I spray a little bit of his cologne on the build a bear he got me. That way when I get snuggled up for bed I can stil smell him and usually I fall a sleep no problems. 

I know this time will be hard, but it may also benifit as you guys will really realize what you to have his special and can even strengthen your relationship. 

Again *Hugs* and I hope the time passes by quickly for you

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