(Closed) SO is moving in!

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Aww how exciting personally I havnt been in your shoes moving in with the parents but my advice is talk things over if you both have bills whos paying what and who does the chores..who makes dinner if one of you are working late ect…. but I wish you guys the best of luck Smile

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Congratulations! That’s so exciting. I think communication is KEY, especially when living with someone. Chore charts worked wonders for us, and being very clear as to who is paying (we have a joint checking account that we pay all bills out of). 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MissLittleChicken:  That’s wonderful news!  I’m so happy for you and your SO.  My fiance and I have been together for 7 years, but last year I moved from Massachusetts to Indiana, then I moved back to Massachusetts but I didn’t have anywhere to go.  My fiance was still living at home, so I moved in with him for 3 months before we got our own place.  In general, it went okay, but some parts of it were really hard for me.  Just be aware that parts of it might be hard for your SO since he is the one moving into someone else’s place, and it might be strange for him to figure out exactly how to behave around your parents.  Like, he might feel awkward about whether or not to take out their garbage, because will that be like he is criticizing your parents’ housework?  Or should he buy groceries?  Should he buy groceries just for him or for everyone?  Those are pretty specific examples, and the problems I had like that might not happen to everyone, but my biggest thought is to check in with your SO from time to time (which I’m sure you would do, anyway) specifically about how he is doing/feeling living in your house with your parents.  It can be a tough thing, getting used to another family’s style and way of interacting, and it’s nothing one can really prepare for.  You kind of just go with it as it happens.  Just keep your eye out for little things (tension, confusion, etc.) that might happen that you might understand faster or better than your SO since you’ve known your parents longer.

Congrats again!  Living together is such an exciting thing. 🙂

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