Post # 1
My Fiance and I got engaged in Febuary and I got a beautiful four prong solitaire. Orginally, we were going to get married a year and half afterwards. But then I decided to go back to school and eventually now we have no date because I’m waiting until I graduate, which is probably going to take three years.
So I asked for a everyday engagement band. (Like titanium or silver). I work in healthcare and want a ring that I can wear in the nursing home that isn’t going to get gross stuff in the setting or cause skin tears. I wanted him to give it to me so it would be sort of special like my engagement ring. My Fiance thought I was a little nuts, but said he would think about it for our anniversary.
Is it weird? Is it like cheating on my future wedding bands–which probably would be the same thing only two of them and in white gold like my engagement ring? I just feel like it’s going to take forever to get the rings that I can wear through everything so I want something like that only temporary. (Sorry this is so long).
Post # 3
I don’t see anything wrong with that idea and you have a good point about it getting gross. I have wanted to do the same thing because I bike commute a lot so I’m always taking off my ring while I ride and don’t want to lose it. I don’t think it’s cheating at all.
Post # 4
I know lots of people who wear a ‘fakie’ because of their jobs.
Post # 5
I feel for you on this. I am in a health care program and we are not allowed to wear jewelry in the clinic due to germs clinging to them and transporting them home. For your own safety, I would encourage your Fiance to get you a new ring to wear to work. It is difficult to completely clean the spaces in the ring.
Maybe you can get a thin everyday band and when you get your wedding band, wear the three as stackables?
Post # 6
I don’t see any problem with it. DH and I both feel that whats important about the ring is not how it looks, but what is stands for. I don’t see why it should matter if you have a more everyday ring. And maybe you could still get something special and different then what you hope your wedding band will look like??
Post # 7
@alwaysmsh: i think it’s a great idea. i don’t think it’s cheating on your real wband. it’s simply appropriate for your job.
Post # 8
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting a band for work purposes, but I personally wouldn’t put that pressure on my DH again. I know he agonized over my ering enough lol.
Post # 9
I have a plain band (stainless steel) that I wear to work. I wear my ering on weekends and evenings. My job would destroy my ering (white gold 4 prong diamond solitaire).
ETA: I talked with Fiance before I bought the ring and bought it on my own with his approval. He said he didn’t care if I bought it and that wearing a stand in was better than wearing no ring (destroying my ering wasn’t an option). I picked it out, ordered it, and started wearing it just to work within a week. It was like $7.
Post # 11
Right now I don’t wear my engagement ring to work. Just thinking about all those germs gets to me.