Post # 1
We sent our invites out on Saturday. Due to space issues the only kids we invited are our neice and nephew. Already I have word that FI’s cousin is planning on bringing their 15 y/o daughter and planned to bring one of her friends, too, though thankfully my Bridesmaid or Best Man told them no to the friend. I don’t know if I have the energy to fight the kid, though. I care about her and we all spend a lot of time together as a family, so I don’t mind her attending…I just can’t allow everybody to bring all their kids because there is not room for them.
Post # 3
I understand your pain, we aren’t having children (other then my son, f.g. & jr gm) on our day either.. we just couldn’t accomodate them all.
We are still having childcare though.. this takes care of my son, the flower girl, & jr. groomsman, along with whoever else can’t follow the invitation request & phone call.
Most of our guests have been perfectly okay with it.. we have one sibling that cannot come unless her children come so we are going to let her, BUT the children HAVE to be in the childcare room for the duration of the day.
(I didn’t want to have to kill any little children for disrupting my day… lol)
Unless you don’t really have a problem with the few that may show I would have a backup plan set up
Post # 4
we stuck with the no kids rule – and i think alot of people declined our invites because of that (DH has a huge extended famly – he has 76 cousins) plus it was february and the middle of the school year…the exception was for DH’s brothers and sisters he has 12 and his youngest sister (our flower girl) is 6. We allowed kids(some cousins that came) at the ceremony and during dancing at the reception but they were not invited to dinner. ( i didnt have the space for them and i didnt want to fork over the money) We had a hotel room set up for them and ordered pizza and had the wii and stuff set up. we ended up with probably about 15 kids and everything went well – they all came and hung out after we were finished with dinner/cake cutting and dances. all in all i had no problems with the kids being there for the short time they were in our presence.
Post # 5
I would personally tell them “no Friend”. If they don’t hear it from you, they may not adhere to it.