(Closed) So it’s looking like it’s going to be a REALLY intimate affair…

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’ll have a wonderful time! We had 69 people at our wedding – including us and our photographer – and it was still hard to even really talk to anyone! You’ll actually be able to catch up and chat with every single guest. I think it’ll be awesome!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We had half of our guests decline for a wedding that is only like 2-3 hours away, and I am TOTALLY spinning it like that. Yay for saving money! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it wil be wonderful! I always wanted a small wedding, thats part of the reason we are having a Destination Wedding also. If we would have done the wedding here, it would be wayyyyy to expensive.

We know some people wont be able to make it, but just think about all the people who love and care about you that are going to be there. Thats whats important!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My mom got married a few months ago, and there were about 20 people there.  It without a doubt an awesome wedding, and I think really enjoyed getting to catch up with everyone!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think if your ok with it thats its definitely a blessing!

I wish we could have done something even SMALLER than our 85! I still think we are spending way too much money!

And dont take what your son said personally, everythings “Lame” at that age if I can remember! lol

BEST OF LUCK!! =)

Post # 8
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588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

We had 17 people, including the two of us, and it was perfect! Just try to reevaluate your vision to accomodate a small guest list! How many people did you invite to begin with?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

you know, I am sending out 50 invites and I am HOPING only 20 or so people come. My house alone is 10 people. Add 20 people to that it 30 is my ideal number. cheaper, more intimate, and easier to keep the overall vibe going.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

i am the in the exact same situation. i was expecting about 30 – 40 people for my destination wedding because so many people TOLD me they were coming! of course when it came time to book, half of them ended up declining! so now i am at 17 booked including myself and FI!  and i was disappointed at first, like really disappointed, but then i started spinning it too, especially when i calculated how MUCH money i was saving!

also, i am on a website just for destination weddings and i started a thread there about this issue. i wanted to see how other people’s small weddings turned out and after reading what everyone had to say REALLY changed my perspective and now i am super excited for my small wedding!

check it out here:

http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/thread/68207/did-anyone-have-a-really-small-wedding-but-without-intending-to-and-how-did-you-feel-about-it/40#post_1542209

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MsInterpret: We are headed in the same direction. We invited 50 guests and we are at 21, including us and the wedding party; 27, if you count the vendors. I am sad, but also trying to turn it into a positive. I have spent so much time and effort on our wedding. It just seems like such a waste, but I guess what matters the most is that the most important people in our lives will be with us on that day, so that should make it even more special. I have joked with my Fiance and kids that I am going to put an add on Craig’s List just to fill some seats, but obviously I wouldn’t do that :-/

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@noritake22:  It just seems like such a waste

omg! please don’t use that phrase in relation to your WEDDING! your wedding is for you and your FI! as long as both of you are there, nothing is wasted and all is worth it!!  and all that great effort you are putting will be captured by your photgrapher and you will have those pictures and memories for ever!  you DEFINITELY need to read the thread i posted above too on my other site!

Post # 14
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

by the way, we sent out about 75 invites with plus ones. of course we NEVER expected that many. like i said, we expected about 30 – 40 and now we have 17.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@dynamic_duo: I just read your post and it was very encouraging… thank you πŸ™‚

However, I am still a little discouraged. I have enough of everything for 50 guests. And I still think I may have gone a little overboard for so few people, but you are correct, it will be beautiful and I know we will be thankful that we did what we are doing. It is just so frustrating when so many people promised to come and now aren’t.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@noritake22: i totally understand how it feels, trust me. even though i say i changed my perspective, i still have my days when i feel bummed out. i am mostly bummed about 2 of my closest friends who were supposed to come and now they are not, than i am about the overall number.  but you just gotta fill yourself with positive thoughts. and when i get really stressed i focus on the day i got engaged. it was one of my happiest moments and the only thing i cared about was that i was engaged to my Sweety. nothing else mattered and i really believed that this would be a stress free process because all i wanted to do was get married and i wouldnt care about the details! well, i have had my fair share of caring about the details and stress about everything and anything.  but when i really remember WHY i am doing this, i KNOW that ON the DAY, i WILL be sublimely happy. even if 5 people show up, i won’t care!

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