(Closed) SO just sent me a picture of a ring!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do?
    Stop being so spoiled and be happy with what he gets you : (12 votes)
    18 %
    Try to tactfully tell him you aren't crazy about it and risk hurting his feelings :-( : (53 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 4
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    well he obviously sent you the ring to get your opinion. I doubt had he bought it he would have sent you a picture of it being like heyyyy just bought you this!  Just tell him, being upfront and honest is the best way to go. He’ll be more hurt down the line if he buys it and finds out you don’t like it. 

    Post # 5
    3692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    If you’re fairly sure he hasn’t bought it, send him back a picture of a ring that is more your style?  You can say, “I was thinking something more like this.”

    Post # 7
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @impatientlywaiting20:  Maybe in reply to that you could just send him 1-2 pictures of rings you like and say I think the one you sent me is pretty but may be too chunky on my finger, I thikn something like this (cue pics) might work better.

    I’m an overly honest person so I couldn’t not say anything! 

    Post # 8
    1024 posts
    Bumble bee

    If he’s sending you a picture then he seems to be open about the process. So, I think it would be ok to share your preferences for rings. Perhaps send a message back saying how excited you are about his message, and include a picture (maybe a screen shot from your computer) of a ring that’s more your style. He may not pay attention to the same details you do, so if there’s something you REALLY love about a ring, I’d mention it.

    Lots of ladies (myself included) are initially wrapped up in the idea of a surprise ring and proposal, but they have specific hopes and ideas for what they like. If you think you’ll be disappointed by not getting a specific kind of style, then you should probably let him know.

    And it’s totally OK to want to help pick. That’s the way a lot of women are going these days – including myself and my engaged & married bridesmaids.

    ETA: I agree with the poster below me – definitely less hurtful to him if you tell him now versus after he’s bought it/given it to you.

    Post # 9
    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I know it’s not the most comfortable exchange of words, but telling him that you don’t like a ring BEFORE he buys it will hurt his feelings so much less than if you wait to tell him after. Don’t be afraid to let him know what you want!

    Post # 14
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    Looks like I’m a little late – but I was going to agree, if he didn’t already buy the ring it’s not going to hurt his feelings.

    Love the ring you sent him, by the way!

    Post # 15
    585 posts
    Busy bee

    Why on earth are you spoiled if you have an opinion on what style you like, especially if he sent you a picture and invited that conversation??? I can’t believe people voted that option, WOW. 

    Anyway. Glad to hear he was open to your opinion!

    Post # 16
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I think it’s totally appropriate for you to subtly push him in the direction of other rings. It would only be hurtful if you were posting on here that “SO sent me a picture of a ring, and it’s small- how do I tell him I want a bigger one?”


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