- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
I am with a man I adore, we’ve been together for three years and we’re talking about getting married and our future together (he’s been talking about it since our first six months together :p). We are still very much in love and I really see myself with this man.
We do have a few problems and I’d go in to them but right now just the one is on my mind. We sat down a few days ago to write out our guest lists for when we do get married and he mentioned wanting to invite a long time friend of his B, and his friend’s partner H. I met B and H once at dinner and then again at another friends wedding and each time my S/O lit up around H more than I’ve ever seen before. After the first meeting (he was a bit sussed, and I sober), I asked what the deal was, and apparently my boy and B both had long standing crushes on H a long long time ago. H ended up choosing B over my guy and they’ve been together (somewhat happily) ever since. I asked if he still felt something for H and he said yes, but it was more on the platonic/crush end of things. I let it be because I’m a firm believer that we all have feelings for other people to varying degrees while perfectly happy in a relationship.
After the wedding we attended though I watched as once again he lit up like a Christmas tree having her around, and effectively ignoring everybody else at the wedding. She seems to feed on his attention and I ended up spending more time with her partner than my own boy that day. I asked him again about it after the wedding and he said its because he rarely if ever sees her and I pointed out he’s never looked that elated to spend time even with me and he shrugged it off.
I don’t worry at all about her suddenly wanting my guy or that anything would ever happen between them, however, with him wanting to invite B and H to our future wedding, I worry a little about if he’ll end up spending a lot of time with her and leave me to celebrate alone. I teased him lightly about it, and he told me that it wouldn’t happen, bit I still think back on how EXCITED he gets to have her around and wonder.
What do you all think?