(Closed) SO like father

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yup.  It’s called the Oedipus Complex and is completely normal…well, unless one of your parents is destructive or abusive and then you look for partners with the same traits.  Then it’s not so great.  But yea if you have a fairly healthy relationship with your dad and look up to him, etc.. then it would make sense that you date men or end up with a guy who is a lot like him.

It’s funny my dad is a libra and 3 of my major relationships have been libras.  I dont give too much thought into horoscopes but I do read about them and give them a little merrit.  My husband is a libra like my dad and they are both very mild mannered guys and live up to the classic libra personality.

Post # 4
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

No. Thank God. My father was a worthless piece of garbage. Did you read that Dad?

Post # 5
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379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yes, they definitely have similar traits.  Which is really nice because we live about 1000 miles from my parents and only see them once or twice a year but when we do, hubby and my dad get along great!  Hubby & my dad (and me) are all engineers, and they both have this “I can build that!” attitude.  When we visit my dad will start talking about some project he wants to do and the next thing you know they’re making out drawings & planning how they’re going to build it.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Mr. Hedgie and my dad are so much alike sometimes it is creepy. I think that is why they get along so well!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My mom tells me that my husband reminds her of my dad when my dad was his age which is funny.

My husband likes to work on cars and is really good at it.  He also smokes pot.  He’ll smoke a little and go out and work on the car for hours, it’s amazing the focus he gets from the pot.  My mom said my dad was the exact same way and would be outside all day stoned and working on a car with his brother LOL so funny.  My dad is such a straight laced guy these days.  He’s also an engineer and has a great career and dresses all preppy, etc..you would never look at him and think he used to be a stoner who worked on cars haha  I can’t even picture my dad like that, but apparantly he was like that back in the day.  Makes me wonder if my husband will some day be the type that people would look at and never think that he used to smoke pot!

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Yes, like my dad and my grandfather who have both passed.  My SO never got a chance to meet either, but I always tell him that he reminds me so much of both of them. It sounds corny, but I believe they sent him to me.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My SO and dad aren’t alike at all.  For what it’s worth, I don’t think I am like SO’s mother at all either. In fact, we are probably polar opposites, with the excpetion that I think we can both be a little shy when we first meet people.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My SO is nothing like my dad, thank god!!  My father and I don’t get along at all so it’s for the best! 

@EleanorRigby: Interesting point!  I am a bit like my SO’s mom now that I think about it!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i was showing my honeymoon pictures to my sister the other day and she goes “you do realize that this could be dad in all these pictures” and  i never realized it before – just the things he was doing and the way he carried himself then i found one of him floating in the ocean. (which my dad is notorious for – just floating) it made me laugh because i bet i could go to my moms and find pictures of my dad exactly like that.

too funny!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@floridabride12: Haha I really like mine, so I’m ok with it 🙂

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Fiance has a lot of the same mannerisms and attitude characteristics of my dad too! It’s really made me appreciate my dad more actually. I used to see some of the things that my dad did and wonder how my mom (who has such a complete opposite personality from him) could handle him or how they ended up together but now that I’m in a  relationship with someone the same way I feel like I understand my dad better.
 
I am also A LOT like Future Mother-In-Law. Fiance has said that now that he has experienced some of the emotional personality traits that we both have, etc. first hand he has more respect for his stepdad lol.

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