(Closed) So Long and Thanks for all the fish!

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 16
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2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

@soyjoy222: She did PM me. I just didn’t have the opportunity to respond before this post went up.

Post # 17
Member
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Pathetic. If you’re upset-leave. If you wanna feed in to the drama of a dramatic post-leave. It’s easy. Let the bees who are here for feed back and to share ideas do just that.

Post # 18
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3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sloth: ahh. I see. I’m done on this thread now. I just felt bad that this happened.

Post # 19
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9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@bunting: No I definitely understand where you guys are coming from… Smile

Post # 21
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ok, are you all sick of seeing me in threads yet?  My personal approach to moderation is to be really hands off and assume that people will use their best judgment in posting.  I don’t think this thread or commenting on this thread necessarily exhibits best judgment.

I do think this a difficult post to address, because as Ms. Pink pointed out, it’s really hard to strike the balance between snark and moderation… One person’s snark is another person’s “keeping it real”…

So, can we all agree to let this thread die?  I don’t want to have to moderate or close it.

Post # 22
Member
858 posts
Busy bee

ok this is very very simple, things need to change here big time, either they are going to change for the better or they are not. The mods need to tell us either way so that those of us who are unhappy with this bs can move on.

Post # 23
Member
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

Since this is about how bloggers bees are handling things to a degree now, I’m popping in to address that and that only. Personally, I understand the sting of the bee rejection note. I got one of those lovelies as well. None of us would ever take offense at someone wanting to blow off a little steam at getting one.

The reason some folks felt attacked in the other thread was that the selection committee was accused of being liars. And our own weddings were called insulted and called generic.

If it were just a venting thread? Totally no worries. It wouldn’t have been the first one. And it would have been a non-issue. But it was stated as an attack on others. If you were attacked in such a manner, you might feel a little offended as well.

So here’s the deal. I’m not a mod. And I’m not usually the type to get involved in here. I certainly do not want to step on toes, stir people up, or otherwise incite a board riot. One of the reasons I love this community and *all* of you, is how supportive and helpful everyone is to each other. Especially in a time in our lives when we could all use a helping hand.

So I propose that we release some of this negative energy and focus on the positive. I will start by promising that if I feel like something was aimed at me personally, I’ll address it personally. And if I’m not sure if something was a direct shot, I’ll choose to believe it wasn’t. I will give everyone here the benefit of the doubt. I’ll believe in the best intentions. That’s how I’ll do my bit to turn this around.

What if we focus on positive steps to resolve this? What positive step will you (not anyone specific…. the general “you” here) take? 

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