Post # 1
Yesterday Fiance had a really nice time visiting with the FIL’s we had dinner and then Fiance and I started to do crafts. Somehow the guest list came up. Fiance told them they we were only going to invite adults over 21, FI’s little brother will be invited however. His mom kept asking us questions like why? and what about ___? but she seemed okay with it.
Fast forward to today, Fiance just text messaged me that she took it upon herself to call members of the family and let them know that we were only inviting adults.
I don’t know why but I am so MAD. I don’t know why she’s taking it upon herself to spread news that frankly Fiance and I could easily change our mind on. Seeing we haven’t even sent our save the dates out. I already beat on my mom for telling my cousin she was invited. What is up moms? Why are you trying to kill me? If you were shelling out more than just warm wishes you would have a say, but you aren’t so keep your trap shut.
It’s really nice to talk things out with our parents but it’s starting to seem like we can’t tell them anything at all. Does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I cannot share anything with my Future Mother-In-Law that I dont want everyone to know about. I’ve sent her pix in confidence that have been fwded to the entire fam, everything gets shared. I know she doesnt do it to be spiteful but I still feel like I cant share wedding ideas, etc but I want some things to be surprise.
In this case tho be happy that she is making those awkward convos for you… I am having guest list drama that I dont want to deal with.
Post # 4
@sassypants: oh no that is awful!!
We were doing save the date stuff there. GAH. Fi just said he will talk to her but I doubt it will help.
Post # 5
My mom is the same way. Even if you give her a non-committal answer she will just hear what she wants to, and tell people what she wanted to hear. LOL.
I really feel like I will have to keep much of the planning a secret to keep drama at a minimum.
Post # 6
While we were planning, my Mother-In-Law posted a copy of our wedding invitation to the church bulletin board to invite everyone. I feel your pain.
Post # 7
Same thing with my Future Father-In-Law ….. he tells people that we’re not inviting them, then once we finalize the guest list he tells them that they are now invited and then tells us how happy they were to be invited now (we haven’t sent out invites), then he goes and books a block of hotel rooms for Out of Town guests and tells them where to stay ….. but there’s only 3 couples from Out of Town, the “blocks” can only be for a minimum of 10 rooms, and the 3 couples all have very different hotel needs (1 has to have pet-free hotel due to extreme allergies, 1 will only stay in high-class hotels, and 1 is on a very strict income and needs somewhere cheap). It’s really annoyinng!!
Post # 8
@kerensa: We had talked baout drinks, between buying alchol or limiting. I wish they would just keep it to themselves.
@Linz1231: Wow thanks mom!
Fiance said she was not tring to start trouble but to let them know in advance. He says that she was worried about that they would think, and that they would think it was rude.
Guess what Future Mother-In-Law I think your rude!! If we are concerned about how people think of us we’ll be sure and talk to them ourselves.
This is how drama starts I dont want or need Future Mother-In-Law drama. Planning is stressful enough as it is.
Post # 9
Haha my dad sent a picture of me in my dress to his entire side of the family. I don’t think he realized that I might not want them to see it, but I know he was excited. 🙂 At least it means they care! lol
Post # 10
@thehoneybear: OFG I would have had a kitten.
I guess… lol Maybe we need a code word to indicate what we are talking about is top secret.