(Closed) so mad I could spit

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe he wanted it to be a nice surprise and wants to ask when you’re least expecting it.

Post # 4
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

maybe he is planning something and he is telling you this so he cant actually surprise you!!

Post # 5
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

He probably changed his mind and found a better way to propose to you. R told me that he had three or four plans, and had the hardest time choosing between them. 

Post # 6
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think he wants to make a very special night out of it. I wouldn’t worry. It will be ok.  He will ask you when he is ready and probably when you least expect it… mine did. 🙂  Stay positive and keep your head up. Let us know when it happens.

Post # 7
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aw! Don’t worry, girl! I bet he is planning something extra special for you!

Post # 8
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Maybe he’s really ticked off that you found out about it?  This is the ONE time when he gets to be all romantic and give you the surprise of your life and someone RUINED it for him.  I understand why he’s mad!  I think you should try to put it on the back burner and LET him surprise you!

Post # 10
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think a lot of girls forget that the proposal is a big moment in the man’s life too. It isn’t just about what the woman wants. It should be special for him as well.

I don’t want to come off as snarky, but it sounds like you are being overbearing and are ruining the experience for him. Stop trying to control everything and let him do what he feels is right. It is a big moment for him, one that you should stop trying to dictate. Have some faith in him and realize that he only wants to make the moment special; you finding out probably spoiled a great deal of that. Let him surprise you without the constant prodding, I think you will both be happier with the final outcome that way.

Post # 11
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think he just wants to surprise you.  I’d stop bringing it up.  If you keep bringing it up he might spill the surprise to you and then you will regret it later that it wasn’t a surprise.

Post # 12
368 posts
Helper bee

It’s been over a year since mone picked it out, and put a deposit down. Be hapy you are getting closer to being engaged. Smile I’m sure he wants it to be a surprise, and amazing for you.

Post # 14
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ditto @MightySapphire. I think you need to try to be a bit more sympathetic toward your man. You mentioned that this all hurts your feelings… I am positive that his feelings are hurt as well, and he’s on damage-control mode. Try not to bring it up again, and if he brings up marriage or anything wedding-related, try to play it cool and if possible change the subject. If he pushes, explain that you don’t feel like talking about the wedding or engagement while you are still not engaged. Be honest, but respectful.

Post # 15
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

girl i kn how u feel.its just so embarassing. my SO did the same thing.went i told ppl .told my cousin although she doesnt kn that i knew he told her(weird isnt it suppose to be the other way around?) told a couple of co workers who are like frenenimes and then he doesnt do it. he said he chocked when he went to get the ring out of his safety diposit box. imagin that  he has had the ring for almost 2yrs!!!!!. and here i am waiting and doing some more waiting.we have been togther 3.2 ys living togther for 2 yrs. i moved to his country in other to be with him when a position in the company opened up. he says again that i will be engaged before i get any older .my bday isnt till october!! mr smartty pants .i just dont kn if i can take another dis.apointment

good luck


Post # 16
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe he just didn’t feel like the proposal was going to be “special enough” and re-planned it? It’s quite possible. Most men do want it be significant and not something they just randomly do. I can understand why you’re frustrated, but clearly he wants to marry you!! Smile about that :o)

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