(Closed) So Mad!!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ummmm, yeah, if i was mad with my husband, the last thing i’d want to do is kiss him. Especially if it’s something we need to discuss later. It’s just not something I force.And i don’t like to be mushed on when I’m mad. Heck, i don’t even get a goodbye kiss all the time, though, so….not a big deal to me? He’s pissed at you. Are you surprised he just wanted to leave and go to work?He has to cool down.

Sorry i know that’s not what you want to hear. It’s not ideal, but I don’t think it’s enough to say he’s being disrespectful when you called him back to the car or to get so upset over it. Just cuz you demand a kiss doesn’t mean you get one. He has to want to give you one and he didn’t want to. I’m sorry, i don’t see the issue. You can’t force him to kiss you. That won’t make it better. I think you’re mad he walked away from you.

Talk about it when you get home so he knows you found it disrespectful. But don’t be surprised when his only comeback is that he was mad.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m kinda confused. We never kiss if we are in the middle of an argument or if one is mad…I would personally be more mad (livid as you say) that we had an argument, meaning the whole thing-not just him not coming over to kiss you. I would just talk about it when you are both calm. I think it’s nice he sent you that text msg. He said sorry!

Sorry you are having a rough day.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can see the OP’s point but I can also relate to ejes4y8. Usually, I am the one who doesn’t want to “quick fix things with a kiss”. I want to kiss him AFTER we have talekd and resolved things. But he feels even if we are throwing chairs at each other (kidding) that he still wants to kiss me because he loves me so much and so when I see his sad eyes, I make sure to kiss him or say “I love you”. Although not in the same way I would if we weren’t in a tiff !

Post # 8
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Naturegirl Ahhh..so you are mad about the entire fight, not really just the kiss thing. I totally get that. Can you talk to him tonight and tell him how you feel and try to work on this “snappy” thing…tell him you have rough days too, and no need to snap?  Good luck. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Sorry you are having such a rough time. Yep, I wouldn’t talk now while you are both still upset/mad. Try to cool down first and then talk. 🙂

Post # 12
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry,fights suck. Usually when I’m annoyed at my fi the last think i want to do is kiss him…I want to kick him in the shin.

Post # 13
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Take a deep breath. I’m sure you will be able to work it out. Just remember that you are both probably really stressed out right now, so escalating an argument is much easier than it normally would be.

Good luck!

Post # 14
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well even if we are upset with each other we will kiss if one of us is leaving (but we will still let each other know that we still have an issue to address) . I guess that part of that is because we are in a LDR and the other part is that life is too short to walk around angry all day.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i am like some of the other bees. we do not kiss when we are upset, even if one of us is leaving.

it works for us, both of us need time to cool off, when we’re ready to talk it out, we kiss and makeup.

i think it’s enough that he realized that he upset you and sent you the text. as always, just tell him what you need even when you are arguing… it’s different with every couple.

 

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh im glad i didn’t piss you off with my response. I was expecting women flinging crap at me. =]

You should totally be allowed to call each other out on crabby/snippiness. Darling Husband does to me! Sometimes i just feel like being a HUGE bitch and he tells me to stop being a stupid girl and I realize i’m just being a jerk to be one. it happens!

Cool down completely before you discuss this. Apologize for letting it escalate, for being in a bad mood, and mention some solutions to keep it from happening

It’s a glitch in communication, that’s all!

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