Post # 1
Excuse the rant. I just need to.
So I am in the process of starting to lose weight and my SO seems to have took it upon himself to himself to help me ( or in my mine force me). His method is no pop but fried food okay. Don’t ask me on that bit. His main method is to get me to work out and drink no pop. i have a love affair with pop so by making white knuckling it though he just made it worse for me. I am one of those type of people that if you force me to do something I rebel hard core and form resentments. Example I had it happen when I was younger and was force to go outside and play in the sun. Because of that I hate going outside when the sun is up and refuse to still spend more then 15 mins outside in it. With him doing this I actually told him that he making it worse on me and it is making me not want to lose weight. And yes I have told him nicely and then cussed him out because of it ( inside of a Walmart Subway by the way) That what he is doing is not working and there will be reverse effects. And I am fighting the urge of being petty cause I know in his hearts of hearts he thinks he’s helping. And by petty I mean no sex.
Post # 3
tell him you are an ADULT, and to stop treating you like a child. Tell him you appreciate the “support” but to leave it to you..
Post # 4
Time to talk with him. Simple.
Post # 5
I don’t know how I feel about this. I think there is something very wrong with being petty because someone wants better for your health. Yeah, he isn’t doing it the proper way, but he isn’t exactly cramming fried foods down your throat, is he? Soda isn’t good for you, either. I drink Dr. Pepper daily, but it is empty calories. You should make a compromise with him to wean yourself off it (It isn’t that hard, I promise.)
I see blame on both sides. He’s trying to help you, but he’s not doing it properly. You want to get healthier but you’re stopping out of spite because you’re not getting your way.
Talk to him and ask for a compromise, you’ll need to compromise yourself, too.
Post # 6
While I agree he may not be helping you because of your personality, I believe he is doing what is best for you by not wanting you to drink soda. Soda was one of my favorite things ever when I was bigger, but I made the choice to cut it out of my diet completely and it was the best decision I made diet-wise. Besides just health wise, it’s also very bad for your teeth, like it ruins your enamel and stains them a horrible color. And cutting it out will help you lose more weight by making you not bloated, significantly decrease your sugar intake, you won’t become addicted to the caffiene and sugar, and choosing a lower calorie drink will save you tons of calories.
What may be best for both of you is to ween yourself off slowly, and after that only treat soda as like a special treat and not an everday thing. Same thing with the fried food. Don’t eat it everyday, but treat it as a special occasion thing. Maybe 3 times a month if you really love it.
The important thing is to remember he loves you and wants what is best for you health wise. Some people need a good push when it comes to dieting and working out, and his push maybe a little too hard. It’s good to have a partner when dieting and exercising, so you should encourage him to join you so you can keep eachother on track and be the healthiest that you both can be!