Post # 1
Disclaimer: I would never ask anyone to plan around an event in my life, nor would I give a thought to planning a baby around any event in a friend’s life. Just blowing off steam here.
In the last few days I’ve realized that 4 of my friends are pregnant and due the month before or the month of my wedding (I originally thought it was 5, but she’s due 2 months before). I am happy for them, but I’m a bit bummed because I’m betting they won’t be able to make it to our big day and we’re close enough that I attended almost all of their weddings (one was married before we met). 🙁 I know it’s just one day… Also, I was only able to invite 16 friends, so that’s 25% of them.
I found out about the last two between last weekend and last night. I have a few months to get over any disappointment and am working on focusing on who will be there, but it’s a bummer right now, none the less.
Anyone else have any stories to share to commiserate?
Post # 3
@DomesticDiva: ugh I hear you. My best friend is marrying (my FI’s brother) 6 months before my wedding, and 3 weeks before my bridal shower, and then she will move away from town.
She won’t be here for the shower nor planning. Breaks my heart so much, since I’ve been there for all her process and we are best friends since we are 5.
Post # 4
@DomesticDiva: I wouldn’t count them all out. I’m sure some will still make it, they may just need to leave earlier than expected.
Post # 5
are you allowing children at the Reception? If so, some may be still able to make it. Newborns will sleep during the majority it. A lot of moms I know just wore the babies in slings while they slept and the babies were the most quiet/well behaved guestS!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
It’s certainly understandable to be disappointed when people you love are unable to share in the day with you- a number of the regrets rsvps we had made me a little sad.
Post # 7
@DomesticDiva: Awww. That does suck. I wouldn’t bring my 4-6 week old to a large event for fear of germs + just dealing with a newborn isn’t easy, so I’d definitely miss out too. Can you maybe invite other people in their place?
Post # 8
i had 4 babies born in the 6weeks before my wedding…including my sister and my college roomate/aftercollege housemate/very very close friend.
my sister baby was born 2.5 weeks before the wedding and she did come but basically only walked down aisle & gave moh speech. she spent the rest of the time in her room (wedding at same hotel) but it was still sad to not have her around before/after, for pictures etc. if it wasnt my sister she definitely wouldnt have come but she unfortunately has a fussy baby and a very difficult birth (c section gone wrong causing emergency surgury)
my cousins w the 6week old came but mom took baby to bed (also same.hotel) after.dinner…i love that they came and appreciate that they were super thoughtful (sat way far back edge for ceremony in case they needed to take her away for crying)
my friend ended up having her baby 5week early and so she consideted coming (alone – leave baby w.father) but the wedding was 2hr drive and.she had to be so careful about germs bc baby was.premie and it.just didnt make sense.
my.other cousin had 3+ week old and the husband was going to attend out of obligation but we told him it wasnt necessary so they both.stayed.home
Post # 9
@AnaA: Sorry to hear it. 🙁
@SummerOfLove: Yes, true. Time will tell what they each decide to do. One friend is due 2 weeks before and told me she was going to do her best to make it. So sweet of her, but based on what I know from when my sister had my nephew and niece, it’s probably not going to happen. Just too hard, too tired, too many worries about germs.
@BeeinBoston: We’re only having family kids, but I would absolutely make an exceptions for these friends with newborns. I would hope other guests with kids would be understanding of that.
@rebwana: 🙁 I guess it happens to everyone, right?
@MexiPino: Which is totally understandable. It’s just such a crazy coincidence that they’re all having babies at pretty much the same time! I can’t invite other folks because I don’t know for sure if they’re planning to come or not yet. Don’t want to totally assume and make an ass out of myself. The Save the Dates have been sent out, but no one has reached out to me preemtively to say they won’t be able to make it.
@littlemisshostess: Oh man, that’s a very similar situation, but with a sister thrown in, which makes it a bit harder. Dang coincidence baby booms!
Post # 10
@DomesticDiva: i completely get it, and how you are feeling is totally normal! i am going through this in a BIG way. my Maid/Matron of Honor just announced she’s pregnant and due 3 weeks after our wedding, and another maid is due 2 weeks before our wedding…i also have another very close friend who can’t come because her brother is getting married the same day.
i can’t imagine having my wedding without two of my best friends there…and my moh has even asked if i could change the date of my wedding. as you said, i don’t expect anyone to plan their pregnancy around my wedding day, but i also cannot be expected to plan my wedding around someone’s pregnany…nor will i change my date because it interferes with something someone else has going on…its tough because i don’t want to seem like i don’t care…but all of my friends are married and have kids…i’m the last one…so i kinda just want to be like WORK WITH ME!!!
thank you for letting me vent…that feels better 🙂