Post # 1
I am pretty new to this whole wedding thing as I just got engaged but I am already overwhelmed with all of the decisions you have to make. I have a large family who I loooove to include. I am really sad because we all live apart, so my mom calls me, my sister emails me and I have to add of their pieces together 😀
How do you include your family or friends in decisions??
Post # 3
I only ask my sister and fiance what they think. At first I was trying to include everyone, but it soon becomes very similar to “to many cooks in the kitchen”. With that said it is your wedding an overall it has to be what you want otherwise it wont be perfect for you. 🙂
Another thought…It is important to know what the people you love think and especially when they have known you your entire life.
Also if there are surprises that you want to leave for the wedding day asking too many people their opinion will take that away.
Post # 4
My family also lives scattered all over the place, but email and texting is the best!! When I was wedding dress shopping, I emailed all of the pictures I took to my grandma who lives 9 hours away. I wasn’t neccissarily looking for opinions/approval but I wanted her to feel included in the process.
My younger sister (and MOH) is going to school in New York (about 6 hours away) so I call, text, and email her CONSTANTLY.
So technology is your friend!
However, I agree with EileenS that there can be such a thing as “too many cooks in the kitchen” when planning your wedding. Believe me, EVERYONE will have an opinion and most people are not very nice about it. When strangers (cashiers, sales people, co-workers, etc) start asking questions about your wedding they will NOT hold back if they don’t like something, and apparently neither do family members. lol.
I’m not saying it’s all terrible, but it can be overwhelming to add other opinions into the mix especially when you’re internally conflicted.
So my best advice is to just tackle one thing at a time. Some things might take 1-2 days to make a decision, some things might take 2-3 months to make a decision. So just take it step by step, be patient, and take a breather if you need to.
And have fun! Sorry to ramble!
Post # 5
Everyone will have an opinion on what you should do. Eventually I just learned to smile and say thanks for the idea, I’ll have to think about it. Then I did what my hubby and I wanted for the wedding day. For me the decision making got easier once we had a venue and a date.
Hang in there!!