- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA
My fiance and I are getting married in 3 short months, and we are blissfully planning away as we have been since last May. We are SO excited!
However, over the past several months, so many people in my friend circle have suddenly had their relationships end in divorce, like pretty out of the blue. I look back on those relationships and remember thinking how blissfully happy they all were as they met their person, fell in love, got engaged, planned their weddings, had their first baby (in two of the cases).
And then boom, one friend posts that she found out her hubby cheated and was leaving her for the other woman, all in the course of a single morning, leaving her and her toddler son in the aftermath. A few months later, another friend posts almost identical news, except her hubby was “super sorry and it didn’t mean anything” but she left his dumb ass anyway. Both of them have a baby or toddler and seemed happily married. In one case, they had just celebrated their anniversary with a night out without the baby, and looked so happy together. My friend was gushing about how lucky she is, and then boom, she saw a text on his phone when he left it to go to the bathroom and the message popped up. Yesterday, yet another friend drops the bomb that her and her person are also divorcing and she’s moving in with her new dude this weekend.
I dunno, bees, it just has me in my head a little bit. I’ve been married before, and divorced, so maybe that plays some part too, but with the wedding approaching so quickly, I can’t help but wonder if that will be us in a few years, and it makes me so very sad to even think about it.
They were all so happy at one point too. They all firmly believed this was it, their partner for life, til death do they part, etc. None of them ever really envisioned this happening to them, of course. But it did.
I know every relationship is different, and people are going to do what they’re going to do and there’s no way to predict any of it, but ugh, it sure puts the focus on how uncertain the future can be, and it’s scary sometimes to think about.
It doesn’t make me want to get married any less. I still can’t wait to walk down that aisle and say “I DO” to the most wonderful person I’ve ever met. I just hope our story doesn’t end in the way so many others seem to. 🙁
Not really looking for advice, just kind of venting/reflecting a little, but feel free to jump in if you have any words to share. For now, I’m just going to focus on planning this wedding and loving my fiance as fiercely as possible for as long as I can. And maybe giving Fiance some extra long hugs later, too.