(Closed) So many problems! :Rant:

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sorry but why are you letting one person’s schedule/opinion dictate your wedding?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

….”hey, when do you think we’ll be able to put money down on my dress?” “when will we be able to reserve the venue?” “When will you be printing the STD’s?” …., my Future Mother-In-Law stepped in, “YAY!”, and changed everything…

you should take control and do these things yourself and not accept their $$$ or opinions, just book and pay and get married the way you want to

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If you don’t want a beach wedding, don’t have one.  That’s one thing I wouldn’t compromise on.  Sand??  No thanks!  (No offense to any beach brides, but we all have an idea of what our wedding should be like and standing under the hot sun is too much for me!)

I’d rather serve pizza and drink with plastic cups at a picnic or garden wedding and pay for it myself than have to do a beach wedding I don’t want.

The dance competition is an unfortunate coincidence, but if it’s possible to move the date, try to (a week before or after shouldn’t matter… or even 2 weeks to avoid Easter if you don’t want to get married Easter weekend.)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

All of your complaints are obviously stemming from you not paying for the wedding yourself. Either pay for a wedding you and Fiance can afford, or deal with the ramifications of someone else funding your wedding.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Oh my goodness!  If you can’t have the basic environment that you want, do you really want to have the wedding this way?  Since the date’s in flux, perhaps it’s best to postpone, save, and then have it on your terms?

If you really don’t want to have a beach wedding, it doesn’t seem fair to yourselves to have a beach wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

To add to sugarpeach’s comment, I’d rather have punch and cookies at a wedding where the bride and groom were happy and felt like it was their day than to go to a forced march directed by one of the mothers.

I’ve been to a wedding that was 80% mom and 20% bride and groom.  It was fascinating as an observer, but the couple didn’t radiate joy.  It seemed like the wedding was curated, not planned by an excited couple.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would never have moved my date to begin with. You have one wedding vs. what are probably multiple dance competition dates. As PP stated take back control now, by A) speaking up or B) paying for it yourself. Speak now or forever hold your peace. No way can you be happy if you let your Future Mother-In-Law dictate how the vision of your day should be. 

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