(Closed) SO mentioned that I can move in with him

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsWe:  A time line would be good, and then a back up plan too! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsWe:  As someone who has lived with their Boyfriend or Best Friend for nearly 2 years now, understand that just because you get the “within ___ months of moving in” timeline, a backup plan (or chat) even just stored away in the back of your head is a good idea.  I’d moved across the country for BF’s work with the mutual understanding that we’d be getting engaged within that year….didnt happen.  Not because he’s a bad guy or anything, but I think they make these promises then get panicky when push comes to shove and start putting it off. 

 

With your previous posts in mind: how do you think the “wife/husband roles” issue will play out once you are living together? Do you think he will have more of an expectation than he does now for you to do the things you’ve said you’d wait to do until marriage?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsWe:  I actually did wait until we were engaged. 

 

But I am a bit older, and I didn’t have the time to go down a dead end road.  Funny we were talking about living togehter at year 2/dating, but I’d have to sell my little house.  Then it hit me very suddenly, “I think I have to be engaged before I move!”  H said that was fine, he was game, and then said let’s get engaged next year then.  And that’s how it all went down!

 

Good luck to you!!!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@badabing88:  

@MrsWe:  

 

Oh wait, yes I remember your posts!  Hmm, I would say that it might be a wee bit too soon to move in given the communication/expectation issues that are already going on and given your statements about “you were happier single” and other thoughts.  Is there any rush?  And you’re 34 if I remember, so I’d proabably advise what I told myself at the same age!

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MrsWe:  Why are you selling your house? You will have to pay big time taxes on the capital gains if you dont buy within a certain time frame.

As for the timeline, make sure he know that you want to be engaged within 6 months. If not, you will move out immediately and sign a 1 year lease. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

All of his comments aside, why were you thinking of selling your house and moving into an apartment?

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