Post # 16
Uhm, not saying this to be mean or anyhting like that. I am genuinly curious! Why did you guys invite all these people if you can’t or don’t want to pay for them or/and can not seat all of them, haha? I mean is it because you didn’t want to offend certain people by not inviting them? Again geniunly curious. Good luck to all of you though, I hope it turns out great!
Post # 17
We’re hoping for some drop off too. Invited 244 – thinking about 190 will come. A lot of people are all over the country and won’t drive 4 hours to attend so I think we’ll hit the 190. More people attending = more money, but it’s exciting that everyone wanted to come and share your day!
Post # 18
I am HOPING for a few no’s, but we made sure we had enough room and can afford everyone invited. I dont like crowds, but getting into a Catolic large family. BUT I really wanted to invite ppl outside of my limit for my side. Family from other countries and others I know probably cant come because of health or income, but would appreciate the sentament.FIs side is 130, and with both of our friends, and my side it will be 70. I really would like 150.
My mom wanted to invite some because she knows they would probably send a gift, and I dont really like that idea.
Some ways you can make up for it is trimming down the general menu, taking off favors, trim center pieces, ect.
I did have a friend though that had to trim her wedding by ALOT to afford it, and got almost 100% yes. 2/3 showed up. I got a call within an hour saying to come and bring their other friend to eat and drink it up. Sounds rude, but we arent best friends and I already told her to use me for her B list as I wasnt sure I would be in town. So if you really want to hope for less you can, but still be braced and willing for all of those yes’ to show.
Post # 19
maybe it’s the time of year that i am getting married, and everyone is just available to come.
but 220 is basically what we are getting. i would be prepared for that for your wedding, just in case.
i am freaking out!
Post # 20
OR maybe people just love you and want to spend your special day with you 🙂
Post # 21
@MissDareDevil: Wow, it must feel great to be that loved but I can definitely see how that would be overwhelming! I definitely think if you scale back the alcohol that would help with the budget.
Post # 22
What I said was meant to be a joke!!! I have a huuuuge family and I love them all. I will be so happy if everyone we invite can come to our wedding, as I am inviting them to celebrate with them! But let’s be honest… No one expects that every.single.person. can make it to your wedding. You always expect that a small percentage of people won’t be able to come, so I’m sure it’s shocking to see that only 2 people out of 220 aren’t coming and to have to accommodate for that!
Post # 23
That is crazy!! Wow! We invited about 215 and we would have been SOL had everyone said yes because our venue only fit max 150! We ended up having only 130 people come which was the perfect amount. Do you think some of these people might just no-show?
Post # 24
Can’t count on people saying no, sorry you are learning the hard way.
Post # 25
Oh wow- hope that doesn’t happen when we send our invitations out. Garrett & I have a list A and a list B….so we will base sending the additional list B invitations out if we have low reservations on the list a. BUT again, that is really hard due to the RSVP deadline and being proper. Ahhh, this is all crazy! Gotta find a method to the madness.
Post # 27
Did you have a lot of out of towners???
Post # 28
This is also my biggest fear! In some ways, it’s great because it means that your guests care a lot about you and that you are a priority to them, but I definitely understand about it being expensive. I think we may just have to trim the guest list a bit from the start to avoid this. I’m sure you can make it work!
Post # 29
@MissDareDevil do you have mostly loca guests? we are also in a similar situation–inviting 215, ideally having no more than 175…but we have LOTS of out of towners
Post # 30
That’s crazy! I have never heard of essentially everyone coming!
We’re inviting just under 190, and I’m really hoping no more than 150 come. It’s a holiday weeked with a lot of out of towners, so it should be possible, but your post just made me realize I should probably plan ahead!