- Beeyoutifully Me
- 6 years ago
I am new to the boards, although I have been reading all of your comments for the past couple of weeks. I can’t get enough. This is such a supportive community of women with the same ups and downs I have been feeling.
Well…..here’s my story. My SO and I have been together for the past 8.5 years. I am in my mid twenties and he is 30. We took a slight break about for years ago for about a year. He was my first “you know” and I needed to experience LIFE. Anyway, we got back together (he waited patiently for me, although he did date a bit–go figure) and for the past four years we have lived together. We have had our ups and our downs–but he has always seen me in his future and I’ve always seen him in mine. We talk marriage a LOT. He openly talks about our kids and our wedding. He has affirmed in every way that we ARE getting married and he is very sweet. He tells me he loves me every day. On New Year’s Day earlier this year, I asked him if we would be getting engaged this year, because I really want to and he said, “yes we will”.
We looked at rings during the summer and took pictures while at the jewelers. While visiting my aunt later in the summer she told me that my SO had called my mother (who was freaking out) and picture messaged her some rings! I was kinda pissed that my aunt told me (I told her we had looked at rings), but in a way I was ELATED that he was involving my mother….he was taking a HUGE step and the gears were moving.
By my birthday in the fall, he planned a beautiful weekend getaway. I was absolutely certain that this was THE weekend. He had been planning in secret and every detail was in place. We rarely get away so this was special. Our suite was beautiful and outside a wedding was taking place ( I was sooooooo envious watching the ceremony from our balcony by the lake). But heartbreakingly, the next morning…..NO RING. I sent my mother a text to let her know, and she, too, was surprised it didn’t happen. I left the resort feeling physically ill. On the drive back, he asked me what was wrong and I held my tongue for the first couple of hours. What a beautiful weekend….but what a HUGE let down!! Finally, I couldn’t hold it any longer and carefully told him what my expectations had been (this was the first time I actually thought it could happen). He was silent and disappointed. I told him that I would be not talking about engagement anymore because I am over the topic and over people asking me about it. The rest of the drive home was pretty somber. By the time I got home, we were talking again. I was in our bedroom and I overheard him talking to my mother on the phone in the living room. He told her that he had something special planned and that my birthday weekend was “too obvious”. He just want to do something nice for me.
Here’s the thing ladies, my mom was convinced that he had a ring. Did he lie to her? She said she even knew what he was planning to spend! In our last conversation about our engagement a couple of months ago, he said that we had to get our savings up if I wanted a ring….but I distinctly remember him showing me that he had received an AMEX (which I haven’t seen since) over the summer. I am so freaking confused. Our finances are co-mingled so where is the funding for the ring coming from?
So now, I’m waiting. Tonight another friend got engaged and I told him…but he didn’t have a comment at all which was odd. As I type, he’s playing R&B love songs on the computer while he works and he’s adding my name to the lyrics!
Someone get me a Xanex!! When is this ring going to show up?! 8)