(Closed) so much change and it’s making me sad

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know its really hard to make all those changes. the unknown might just be the worst–will you find a job, amke friends, adjust in a new place)

Don’t give up hope that you can’t find another great job.

When we got married I moved from Chicago to San Diego, started a new job, lived on our own for the first time ever (we both moved back home after college bc it was more convenient before the wedding)

The transition hasn’t always been easy, but I love my life now.  It was so nice to spend the first few months doing a lot with my husband–just us (we were long distance for over a year befor ethe wedding).  But those were the hardest times for me.  I needed to go through the grieving/change process first and it really brought us together.

Then I started to get involved more, made some co=owrker friends, friends from church, and started researching my new area.

I don’t have the greatest job ever, but it couldn’t be more convenient for this stage of life as my husband is in graduate school.

I know it might feel like a lot of sacrifice, but I know it will bring you two more together, and marriage is all about self-sacrifice for the good of both of you. Keep communicating with your fiance about your fears and apprehensions and work through them together!

Post # 4
32 posts

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of this so close to your wedding, it must be very stressful.

I don’t know if this will help but I moved from my home country to Canada to be with my bf when he had to go home. We ended up being there for two years and I had the most incredible experience. The friends I made will be friends for life, and I ended up finding a job that has since shaped my career.

It can be a little daunting to be faced with change but I think it’s better to experience challenges and grow from them than be scared of what may (or may not) happen. It will also probably result in you becoming far more close to your fi, as you will be facing this together.

Best of luck and congratulations on your wedding!

Post # 6
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I moved to be with my SO and I’m not going to lie it has been a tough road.  My advice for you on the job front is to be picky.  I took a job at a place I wasn’t sure of and it turned out horribly.  I had a bad feeling about it, but I did it anyway because I wanted a job in my exact field.  Be brave and look at the move as a chance to expand your skills/area of expertise; and don’t take one just because you are worried about the economy and feel the need to stay in your exact field.  

I have found more joy and fun in my life now that I am on an alternative path to my original path.  Don’t be afraid, only commit to what you love and stay open to the possibility of a new path. 

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