Post # 1
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
I just need to vent really badly.
I’ve posted about my dog, who is sick. He seems to have good days and bad days. Sometimes it seems like he might be getting better, and other days it’s just horrible. Last night I was up all night with him because he had incontenance and he couldn’t sleep. He was restless and sad and just wanted to cuddle with someone, so I stayed up with him most of the night until he finally fell asleep.
Even worse, this week, my Mother-In-Law was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She’s been having very bad memory and cognitive problems for the last 2 years, and finally we went to a private clinic where they were able to diagnose her (thanks for nothing Canadian healthcare). Of course this has crushed all of us in this family, but my Darling Husband is in absolute shambles. He is devestated over both our dog and his mother. He’s been crying almost everyday, which is not normal for him.
It’s hard because I feel like all I can do really is offer a shoulder to cry on and pray to God for guidance. We have no control over any of this.
I’ll be honest, all this has put a stress on our marriage. We are both at our wits end and are fighting much more often than we usually do. At the same time, we both need each other most now.
To top this all off, just a few minutes ago, I realized I am 4 days late for my period. I’m really hoping that I’m just really stressed and that is causing my cycle to go nuts. I just don’t know how my husband would react if I was pregnant now. Can you really get pregnant even when using condoms correctly? (TMI) we did have sex once without a condom and he pulled out rather successfully. That was just a day before I was supposed to get my period, so not very likely I would have gotten pregnant then.
Thanks for listening, bees.
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. <3 All I can say is to try to hold on to each other, and be understanding that the fighting is from stress.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
((hugs))
It’s tough enough when one partner is under stress, but you both are. Make sure you take some time, both apart and together, to reflect on what you’re going through. Talk about how you each react to stress, how you are feeling, what you need from the other, and find a way to better meet your own and each other’s needs.
And at 4 days late, a PG test should be accurate. Take a test so that at least that stressor can be off your mind for the moment.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
I’m sorry you are going through this. You need each other most. Just be very pateint with him–you are doing all that you can. Pray and love each other. And just like a PP said take a pg test. I would not be surpised if it is becuase of the stress though. Think positive and sending well wishes your way.
Post # 6
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
Thanks for the support bees, it really means a lot to me. We’re just taking all this day by day. I guess I’ll get a test when I get a chance.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
So sorry you are dealing with this. I know what an awful disease Alzheimers is and its tough for the whole family.
As for the period, its probably the stress. I missed mine last month due to stress but a test will put your mind at ease.
Good luck!!
Post # 8
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
@DeathByDesign: I’m so sorry, thinking of you and hoping you can get through this.
Post # 9
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5963 posts
Bee Keeper
Oh honey…when it rains, it pours and you are in the middle of a tropical storm. I can relate, and it’s totally normal to feel helpless and frustrated and to bite each other’s heads off in the middle of this, if it were me, I would line up a dog lover babysitter, to sit with your poor puppy, go out for a nice dinner, and a one night vacay from your problems….even just a few hours to set it all down, reconnect as a couple and remember that in spite of the bad, there’s good too…its a priceless marriage tool.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@DeathByDesign: Hope things have gotten better since your last post! Not eating, stress, all of these things can definitely mess up your cycle. Whenever things get rough and I realize I’ve started lashing out at the SO, I remind myself that it’s not him or me rather the situation. I try to verbalize my ongoing love in some way shape or form after apologizing. It’s hard, though. And every marriage hits rough patches at some point. ::hugs::
