Post # 1
I had pretty much psyched myself into believing that there would be a proposal on our trip to Paris for Christmas, but SO let me know in a roundabout way that it wouldn’t be happening. This added to the stress of finals/Christmas/bills has sent me into a funk. Ugh.
Post # 3
Maybe he is trying to throw you off track? Either way, hugs I know it’s hard!
Post # 4
I’m going to repeat a quote that I read in a magazine. I don’t know it word by word, but it pretty much implies not to expect a ring every major holiday or occasion. Men are already pressured enough and he knows you expect it each time – he chickens out.
Sorry you’re disappointed. Good luck.
Post # 5
I think if he knows your expecting he won’t do it, so maybe he’s throwing you off so he could do it while your in Paris?
Post # 6
My fiance told me that he’d never propose on a vacation, holiday or other special day.
Guess what, he proposed on a vacation.
Don’t be sad – enjoy Paris! It’s an amazing city full of wonderful things to do and see. We went before we got engaged and the thought briefly crossed my mind about getting engaged there, but to be honest it was so over-whelming as it was, getting engaged there might have just been a little too much for me to handle 🙂
It’ll happen when it’s supposed to, no worries!
Post # 7
I don’t know if he thinks I was expecting it. I’ve been pretty much following Mr. Bee’s program to the letter since the beginning. The only time we’ve ever discussed getting married is when he brings it up. And that is usually only after I’ve had a baby-fever breakdown when he suggests we just go to the courthouse.
That’s the real issue here. I’m staring down 30 and he’s in his mid to late 30’s. We want a kid, and he wants to be married first. The timeline we’ve been discussing for that is this time next year, but by pushing back getting married we are pushing back TTC.
Post # 8
@KristenGotMarried: FI told me he’d never propose on those types of occasions as well. Little sucker proposed on Christmas Eve. Haha.
Post # 9
@KristenGotMarried: You’re right. I’m going to be doing good to remember the French I learned in school. And there is so much I want to see/do.
Plus SO’s brother proposed to his Fiance in Paris less than a year ago (a fact that was brought up at Thanksgiving dinner). I guess maybe he wants to do something different.
Post # 10
@Sugaree: I feel your pain. I am not going to get the Christmas proposal I was hoping for either and I am knocking on 37.
Post # 11
I can make you feel better. Even though you strongly suspect (but you don’t know this for a fact) that you’re not getting a Christmas proposal, you know you ARE at some point getting a proposal. So, that’s a good thing. Enjoy that knowledge and your upcoming trip.
I would give anything just to know that it was going to happen soon or even eventually. I don’t even know that in my situation. Yes, my SO is a true commitment phobe.
Post # 12
I was hoping for a holiday proposal too, but found out it probably wouldnt be until the beginning of next year. Who knows with guys, they try so hard to catch us off guard and mess with our heads. I think the best thing to do is not try to figure out when he is going to do it. My SO and i just got back from a vaca and i thought for sure he was going to do it then, so it was a bit of a disappointment when he didn’t. He also said he wouldn’t do it on a holiday, but who knows. Good luck and have a blast in Paris!!
Post # 13
My husband knew I was hoping for a proposal at Christmas. He gave me a pair of earrings (very nice earrings, btw) that came in a black velvet box that looked like a ring box…just to mess with me a bit.
He instead ended up proposing on New Year’s Eve, just because he wanted it to be a surprise and because he wanted to start the new year engaged.
The other posters are right. They DO try to mess with our heads, just to propose when we least expect it. I actually think it’s kind of sweet that they care that much about surprising us.
Post # 14
I definitely agree with everyone else about them messing with our heads! My Fiance proposed on our three year anniversary which may seem like it would have been obvious to me but honestly I was completely convinced he was NOT going to since he had told me so about a million times. So don’t be so sure! It could be happening after all 🙂
Post # 15
I was like 82 percent sure that it was going to happen during this holiday season (since he knows I would love it to be during this time of year) especially since I know he purchased something from the one jeweler that we fell in love with rings at.
But last night at dinner he said that he could see it happening for sure within the next 18 months. I don’t know if he’s just trying to throw me off or what, since technically the holidays are within that time! I don’t do well with surprises, and he’s sooooo good at keeping them a secret! He keeps reminding me that I want to be surprised when it comes to this, so I’m just going to let him have it this time =P
Either way- Enjoy Paris!! that sounds like it’s going to be such an amazing time!
Post # 16
I was also very certain that I could expect a proposal before the end of the year, but now I’m not sure. My SO has been hinting that he has had a ring since September and had been saying things like “Maybe I’ve already put a ring on it…” “It’s going to happen very soon” “I don’t want to make you wait until next year”. All that was great to hear, but it’s now December and all of those hints he was throwing around have stopped completely. When I went to get one of my rings sized two weeks ago he said “It’s a good thing I haven’t bought you an engagement ring yet because I totally thought you were a size 6!” It’s like now all he does is hint that it’s not going to happen any time soon. I’m extremely confused.
Enjoy Paris! That will be the trip of a lifetime for you both and I am sure when you’re there, it will feel perfect!