Post # 1
My boyfriend got his MFA in graphic design FINALLY yesterday, and when we were walking around estatically happy after I got off work (its been like 4 years coming), we looked in at one of my favorite ethical jewelery shops and I tried on some engagement rings! Never thought that would happen soon, or so easily! Wasn’t planned at all. He even asked a few questions, obviously not ready to buy, but not freaked out, and kept the convo going after we left, over dinner, about what I like. Then, today, he sent me an email of a house listing that his mom forwarded him that she wants to help us buy. Which is an amazing offer on her part, because we are pretty broke! In our conversation about it all he said things like “while we save money for our wedding” and “well, let’s figure we get married in one or two years, so…” and stuff about schools being good in the neighborhood, which he knows is important to me.
I can’t believe it! It feels like he’s on the same page as me for SURE now, and I hopefully can relax and just enjoy the happy glow 🙂
Post # 3
@boardersarita: Oh that’s so exciting!! So are you guys going to buy a house before you get engaged/married? My SO wanted to do that but we have been living together for 4 years so I told him I will not buy a house untill we are engaged or married. Which he completly understands.
how many rings did you try on? I know when my SO took me( 3 years ago!! UGH!) I tried on like 40 no joke LOL!
Post # 4
That’s a LOT of progress in one day!!! How exciting!!! Maybe you won’t have to be waiting much longer! 😉
Post # 5
That is so exciting.. that is a lot of progress for one day!
Post # 6
@FutureMrs.browneyes: Good questions! I’m not sure if we will really buy a house before engagement… I told him before that I wasn’t sure how I felt about it, that I’d prefer to know if your future was secure, but on the other hand, knowing that an enagement is COMING does make me feel more comfortable. We’ve lived together for 1.5+ years now, first with housemates, now on our own for 7 months, and I’m ok with that, but renting is different, and we just split it all 50/50. We have a shared bank account for groceries, etc. too. We talked about the house being in his name in the mean time maybe since his mom is loaning him money, and me paying ‘rent’ towards the mortgage until we get married. I kinda feel better about that, since sharing a mortgage but not being married seems a little scary to me, but I also don’t know if I like the idea of moving into ‘his’ house, you know? But he said we can explore options and figure it out together. It kinda depends on how his mom feels too since I’m not ‘family’ yet. I think it will all happen around the same time (getting engaged and getting the house) and then we will try to save for the wedding (since we can rent a unit on the property theoretically if we get this one at least).
About rings, it’s a SMALL store, with only 1 local jeweler, so there were only like 12 engagement-ish rings, and I definitely tried them ALL on! Hehe. He got the basic sense of what I might like, except I sometimes like antique-looking ones too, and this store was all pretty modern. At this point, I’d be happy with almost anything since I want ot get married so badly, but he knows now the one important thing, that I like low-profile settings, definitely not a big ole’ solitaire in a prong setting. He also figured out that I’m ok with some sapphires, and also champagne colored diamonds instead of only white diamonds for the main stone, and I don’t really like oval diamonds, but like round or even the older rose-cut style.