- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2006
OMG Bees!!! This was the bestest waiting weekend ever! We went on a romantic walk to go have a picnic and during the picnic and after on our way to get ice cream, we had a HUGE TALK about our life together!
First, we decided together that we will end our “vow” to not live together before marriage and buy a house this year!!!! We talked it through & realized that it made sense to vow that when we were young & first dating but that after almost 6.5 years and probably getting married in 2012, it’s just not important anymore. (I used some of what you all said in my post about should we live together or not to help us decide so THANK YOU!) We decided that we would either not do anything to the house/not decorate it u or live in separate bedrooms until we’re married – just so there is some type of change after marriage. It was so cute, my SO said “I just really want to have a house and be with you.” AHHHHH! Then we talked about commitment stuff and he agreed the proposal for a man is basically getting married, so once we’re engaged and living together, it’s a done deal and only something bad enough to be grounds for divorce would cause him to leave.
Then, he said that he wants buy and move into our house by AUGUST! Many times in the convo did I remind him that I would only buy a house if we were engaged. So I asked if that meant we’d be engaged by August and he shrugged and smiled a secret-keeping smile and said “I don’t know, maybe!” So now my timeline has been moved up over a whole month and is definitely more set-in-stone!!!
As if that’s not enough… the next day we kept talking more and more about living together and buying a house, and I even showed him stuff from The Knot magazine!! Then his best friend “Joe” texted my SO something about Joe moving closer to engagement. So my SO and I were talking more about that and somehow my SO brought up my Engagement Ring again and I told him very specifically about what 2 gemstones I would be ok with and why. Then he asked me to list off the types of metal for the ring itself that I want! Then I told him (jokingly) to make sure Joe knows that I call dibs on May of next year for our wedding and he was totally normal about that comment!
You guys, I just cannot believe this is my life! Almost 6.5 years together, waiting for ~4 years, I just can’t believe we are so close to engagement, buying a house, and getting married! I’m so over the moon right now!