(Closed) So much support on his side, none on mine (rant)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your mom is being a nutty and I will leave it at that. I had a the very same issue with my mother not getting over my breakup with the ex. Thankfully she behaved herself with Fi, we had one major incident and I went ballistic on her. I think don’t even allow her to go down the road with these conversations anymore. For example say mom we been having this issues over and over again, I am marrying Fi whether you like it or not(unless I’m reading it wrong I’m assuming this is the case), we are no longer entertaining me dating other people. I broke with ex for reason xyz, you are my mother you should be on my side not his. Then follow through, you go to lunch she bring ups a hot new guy she like you to meet, get up pay for what you owe and walk out.(extreme but I did it more then once).

I said to my mother I respect you too much to argue/scream with you. but I am adult and I want the conversation about ex to be dropped.I am an adult and no longer a child and I make my own choices, once you given my your opinion it is up to me to decide what I want to do.  If you insist on bringing it up I will leave. So thats what I did, we had a rocky road and a didn’t talk for several months which was very hurtful. But we both reach a a positive place in last two months so I am happy. If she continues with her bad behavior you can’t change what she does but you can control how you choose to respond, and always limit or make sure your Fiance doesn’t experience her behaving in  rude disrespectful ways because if she comes around later, it might be hard for him to forgive her.

Post # 5
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This whole things sucks! The only good thing is she keeping your Fi out of it. I’ve always been close with my mom so it was hard, my parents were very strict growing up and my Dad isn’t from the states so respect for elders mean different things to him and I thnk it rubbed off on my mom too. I think it’s sad, perhaps you shoud clear your shedule and talk. Getting up and leaving was my way of not getting into a verbal fight with my mom and saying something I can’t take back. Good luck! I hope she comes around. It took my mom a long time to do so.

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