(Closed) So much to deal with, need some advice.

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think if you want to do it, you should just elope and go to the courthouse.  That way you don’t have to worry too much about planning two weddings.

Post # 4
6 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had a kind of similar situation but my husband is from South Africa.  Anyway, we did a quick wedidng in a court room and to avoid any hard feelings we invited NO ONE.  See, we didn’t want anyone to witness our “real” marriage  becuase then when we had the big wedding, they might feel bad or dumb that one half of the family already saw it.  Everyone is happy to know that we are married but they will see it for the first time this April..hope this makes sense…sorry I’m tired!

Post # 6
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wasn’t in the “club” until recently but nobody ever snubbed me or treated me crappy. I’m sorry to hear that–i don’t get why “the club” is such a big deal, LOL.

If you get married in May, once you get your marriage license (a week later) you go on base and enroll in the system. Once you get your card, that’s it. Are you saying you want to get married in May AND in the fall?

Post # 7
22 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hi! I’m stationed up at Fort Drum, NY. I am active duty military so I can tell you sort of what to expect. Your fiance will get 2 or 3 “travel days” when he is done down at Rucker, that’s the “free” leave the army gives him to get all of his stuff up to Drum. On top of that…he can take as many leave days as he wants between the time he is done down there, up until his Report Date that is on his Orders. Therefore, realistically he could take 15 days of leave (if he has them), giving you guys plenty of time for a wedding. One advantage…if you do get married BEFORE you head to Drum, he will get PTDY…which is 10 free days of leave to find a house for you both and get settled in. Hope that helps some! :] you can message me if you have more questions. Good luck!

Post # 9
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Bowden2Be:🙂  We did the “short dress” wedding too– LOL never heard it called that. We did like @futurerissstar: and invited NO ONE and told everyone that it wasn’t the “real” one.


Have fun planning! It will help during the deployment to have something else to work on. 🙂

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